First, let me start off by saying, I am amazed that little ceasers is still in business and I think they have far and away the worst pizza.
Anyway, this game started with toledo -2 and now Toledo is +1. The MAC is 1-11 ATS the last 12 bowl games. I am not saying the sun belt is that much better( floriday international).
This game should only be bet because it will be the only game on tv, and people will want to bet it. I would lean towards the over of 55. I have fl. intl in 2, 4-team teases and that is enough action on the game for me.
Sunday, December 26, 2010
Thursday, December 23, 2010
Poinsetta Bowl and Hawaii Bowl
I will be away from a computer for both of these games. They both have interesting matchups.
The Poinsetta bowl has a triple option team navy against a team that has two nfl wr's on it in San Diego St. The game is played in San Diego where over 10k navy fans will be there due to the naval base next to it. The one condition that no one really knows about is the fact that the field has been under 3 inches of water the last two days and how will that affect the game.
You have to look at previous games this year. SDS stopped the option with AF and they played Utah in a monsoon and still had over 500 yards against them. I do think Navy runs the option way better then AF, but the problem is what happens if SDS goes up 2 td's. I dont think Navy can come back. I like SDS -3 in this game. The total I am scared of so I am laying off of it.
For the Hawaii bowl, you have two spread offenses that are allergic to defense. Hawaii is -10 and I am staying away from this line. Tulsa has the offense to win this game. Either way I will lay a large bet on the over of 73( up to 74 now at some places). If someone wins this game 35-31, then I will take the loss, but I see that being closer to the halftime score then the final score.
The Poinsetta bowl has a triple option team navy against a team that has two nfl wr's on it in San Diego St. The game is played in San Diego where over 10k navy fans will be there due to the naval base next to it. The one condition that no one really knows about is the fact that the field has been under 3 inches of water the last two days and how will that affect the game.
You have to look at previous games this year. SDS stopped the option with AF and they played Utah in a monsoon and still had over 500 yards against them. I do think Navy runs the option way better then AF, but the problem is what happens if SDS goes up 2 td's. I dont think Navy can come back. I like SDS -3 in this game. The total I am scared of so I am laying off of it.
For the Hawaii bowl, you have two spread offenses that are allergic to defense. Hawaii is -10 and I am staying away from this line. Tulsa has the offense to win this game. Either way I will lay a large bet on the over of 73( up to 74 now at some places). If someone wins this game 35-31, then I will take the loss, but I see that being closer to the halftime score then the final score.
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Las Vegas Bowl, bowl #6
Utah vs. Boise St. Boise st -16.5, 0u 57.5
On a quick side note favorites are 5-0 so far this bowl season( 4-0-1 depending when you got the line for lville).
On to this game...i can look at all the stats and numbers I want, and either way I see it Boise rolls in this game. The only things I see holding them back would be are they down and de-motivated since instead of being in a BCS game they are playing another non AQ school in a crap bowl game, the weather( it has been raining for 2 straight days and will be raining through most of the game), has partying in Vegas worn them out, and finally, how long will Peterson keep the starters in if it is a blowout( he is known to pull his whole team in the mid 3rd quarter).
For utah, they have won 9 straight bowl games, they have great coaching, but I just think they overall talent they have can not match Boise one bit. When Utah has faced anyone resembling a good defense lately they have scored 3 and 7( nd and TCU). They did put up 38 against San Diego St( this will be talked about more when I go huge on the nvay/SDS over). I know Utah will be motivated and I know they had the fight in the casino and the Utah kids are tweeting all types of trash talk, but at the end of the day Boise is just to good. If Utah finds a way to sneak in the back door at the end, that will be something I can live with.
As for the total, I am afraid of this a little, becasue Boise could shut them down 31-10 or they could totally blow them out and score 58 themselves. I will be going real small on the total, but I will play some props.
Plays for this game( this is also in my top 3 for Boise to win in my confidence pool).
Bets on this game are( and of course there will be a 2nd half bet:
All these for 1 unit:
STRAIGHT BET
[210] BOISE STATE -16-120 (B+½)
STRAIGHT BET( this is the alternate line paying +165)
[7006] ALT1-BOISE STATE -21½+165
STRAIGHT BET
[7157] TOTAL o21-110
(TOT PTS 1ST HALF-BOISE STATE vrs TOT PTS 1ST HALF-BOISE STATE)
STRAIGHT BET
[1210] 1H BOISE STATE -10-110
2 unit tease:
4T MONSTER TEAS Ties lose
[102] STEELERS (PIT) -1½-110 (B+13)
[210] BOISE STATE -3½-110 (B+13)
[211] TOTAL o47½-110 (B+13)
(NAVY vrs SAN DIEGO STATE)
[213] TOTAL o60-110 (B+13)
(TULSA vrs HAWAII)
2 unit tease:
3T SUPER TEASER Ties lose
[210] BOISE STATE -6½-110 (B+10)
[513] JAZZ (UTAH) +2-110 (B+8)
[517] ROCKETS (HOUS) +9-110 (B+8)
On a quick side note favorites are 5-0 so far this bowl season( 4-0-1 depending when you got the line for lville).
On to this game...i can look at all the stats and numbers I want, and either way I see it Boise rolls in this game. The only things I see holding them back would be are they down and de-motivated since instead of being in a BCS game they are playing another non AQ school in a crap bowl game, the weather( it has been raining for 2 straight days and will be raining through most of the game), has partying in Vegas worn them out, and finally, how long will Peterson keep the starters in if it is a blowout( he is known to pull his whole team in the mid 3rd quarter).
For utah, they have won 9 straight bowl games, they have great coaching, but I just think they overall talent they have can not match Boise one bit. When Utah has faced anyone resembling a good defense lately they have scored 3 and 7( nd and TCU). They did put up 38 against San Diego St( this will be talked about more when I go huge on the nvay/SDS over). I know Utah will be motivated and I know they had the fight in the casino and the Utah kids are tweeting all types of trash talk, but at the end of the day Boise is just to good. If Utah finds a way to sneak in the back door at the end, that will be something I can live with.
As for the total, I am afraid of this a little, becasue Boise could shut them down 31-10 or they could totally blow them out and score 58 themselves. I will be going real small on the total, but I will play some props.
Plays for this game( this is also in my top 3 for Boise to win in my confidence pool).
Bets on this game are( and of course there will be a 2nd half bet:
All these for 1 unit:
STRAIGHT BET
[210] BOISE STATE -16-120 (B+½)
STRAIGHT BET( this is the alternate line paying +165)
[7006] ALT1-BOISE STATE -21½+165
STRAIGHT BET
[7157] TOTAL o21-110
(TOT PTS 1ST HALF-BOISE STATE vrs TOT PTS 1ST HALF-BOISE STATE)
STRAIGHT BET
[1210] 1H BOISE STATE -10-110
2 unit tease:
4T MONSTER TEAS Ties lose
[102] STEELERS (PIT) -1½-110 (B+13)
[210] BOISE STATE -3½-110 (B+13)
[211] TOTAL o47½-110 (B+13)
(NAVY vrs SAN DIEGO STATE)
[213] TOTAL o60-110 (B+13)
(TULSA vrs HAWAII)
2 unit tease:
3T SUPER TEASER Ties lose
[210] BOISE STATE -6½-110 (B+10)
[513] JAZZ (UTAH) +2-110 (B+8)
[517] ROCKETS (HOUS) +9-110 (B+8)
Monday, December 20, 2010
St. Petersburg Bowl
Louivilee vs So Miss, lville -2.5, o/u 57.5
This game doesnt stand out to me at all. So Miss has a good passing attack with 2 wr's over 1000 yards and a good RB. lville is a pretty one dimensional offense. I dont really have a lean to this game, but I think So. Miss wins this game outright. I am actually not betting on this game, but if I were to bet, I would lean towards the under and so miss.
After doing a little more research, I have come to the conclusion that I think So Miss is just a better team. I am taking them and also taking the team over. They have only not scored 30 points 1 time this year.
Got this from another blog, but it is great information...
S.Miss Offense: Souther Miss can score, flat out score.They scored 40+ 7 times this season. However this is against terrible defensive teams such as #118 E Carolina, #117 Memphis, #96 Houston, #83 Tulsa, etc. They were able to put 31 points on Central Florida #12, however they only scored 13 at La Tech.
They are #15 in total offense, #21 rushing, #31 passing and #15 in scoring. Led by Junior QB Austin Davis with 18 pass TDs and 10 rushing TDs. Strangely Tulane was able to hold him to only 102 yards but Tulane is ranked #29 against the pass.
Louisville Defense: #10 in total yards, #9 against the pass, #47 rushing yards and #15 in points allowed. They allowed 20 or less points in 7 of 12 games including shutting out UCONN, 13 to Rutgers, 17 to WVA, 0 to Memphis while SMiss gave Memphis 19points.
Louisville Offense: Froman and Burke have combined for 19tds and 7 INTS. Both are Seniors.
Senior Running Back Billal Powell has a 6.3 avg, 1330 yards, 10 rushing tds and 3 receiving tds.
#32 rushing yards, #66 total yards, and #71 in points scored.
Southern Miss Defense: #103 against the pass, #80 in points allowed, but #14 against the rush.
Angles and Tidbits: Southern Miss has a great offense and Louisville has a considerably better defense and probably much better than S.Miss has seen this year.
Louisville Defense hasn't allowed a 200+ passing yard game to an opponent in their last 6 games after getting tourched by Cincy.
A long layoff between games as both teams haven't played since 11/26.
Louisville will have to contain the passing game to win. Southern Miss has to out shoot Louisville.
Louisville #39 in turnover margin, Southern Miss #18
My pick:
Louisville lost to Cincy who played this exact same style of uptempo offense and although they got better defensively, they did not play this style the rest of the year.
They say defense wins championships, but in these bowl games alot of times offense is what wins and I don't see Louisville holding down S.Miss as they are very very fast and I beleive S.Miss can hold down Louisville's offense.
This game doesnt stand out to me at all. So Miss has a good passing attack with 2 wr's over 1000 yards and a good RB. lville is a pretty one dimensional offense. I dont really have a lean to this game, but I think So. Miss wins this game outright. I am actually not betting on this game, but if I were to bet, I would lean towards the under and so miss.
After doing a little more research, I have come to the conclusion that I think So Miss is just a better team. I am taking them and also taking the team over. They have only not scored 30 points 1 time this year.
Got this from another blog, but it is great information...
S.Miss Offense: Souther Miss can score, flat out score.They scored 40+ 7 times this season. However this is against terrible defensive teams such as #118 E Carolina, #117 Memphis, #96 Houston, #83 Tulsa, etc. They were able to put 31 points on Central Florida #12, however they only scored 13 at La Tech.
They are #15 in total offense, #21 rushing, #31 passing and #15 in scoring. Led by Junior QB Austin Davis with 18 pass TDs and 10 rushing TDs. Strangely Tulane was able to hold him to only 102 yards but Tulane is ranked #29 against the pass.
Louisville Defense: #10 in total yards, #9 against the pass, #47 rushing yards and #15 in points allowed. They allowed 20 or less points in 7 of 12 games including shutting out UCONN, 13 to Rutgers, 17 to WVA, 0 to Memphis while SMiss gave Memphis 19points.
Louisville Offense: Froman and Burke have combined for 19tds and 7 INTS. Both are Seniors.
Senior Running Back Billal Powell has a 6.3 avg, 1330 yards, 10 rushing tds and 3 receiving tds.
#32 rushing yards, #66 total yards, and #71 in points scored.
Southern Miss Defense: #103 against the pass, #80 in points allowed, but #14 against the rush.
Angles and Tidbits: Southern Miss has a great offense and Louisville has a considerably better defense and probably much better than S.Miss has seen this year.
Louisville Defense hasn't allowed a 200+ passing yard game to an opponent in their last 6 games after getting tourched by Cincy.
A long layoff between games as both teams haven't played since 11/26.
Louisville will have to contain the passing game to win. Southern Miss has to out shoot Louisville.
Louisville #39 in turnover margin, Southern Miss #18
My pick:
Louisville lost to Cincy who played this exact same style of uptempo offense and although they got better defensively, they did not play this style the rest of the year.
They say defense wins championships, but in these bowl games alot of times offense is what wins and I don't see Louisville holding down S.Miss as they are very very fast and I beleive S.Miss can hold down Louisville's offense.
Sunday, December 19, 2010
12/19 bets
Some of these have been pending with other games, but we are taking a lot of the bowl winnings and running it back today....
all these for 2 units..
STRAIGHT BET
[8155] TOTAL o28½-110
(TOTAL PTS BY PATRIOTS vrs TOTAL PTS BY PATRIOTS)
STRAIGHT BET
[8137] TOTAL o21-120
(TOTAL PTS BY SAINTS vrs TOTAL PTS BY SAINTS
STRAIGHT BET
[8109] TOTAL o21½-110
(TOTAL PTS BY JAGUARS vrs TOTAL PTS BY JAGUARS)
These are for 1 unit:
STRAIGHT BET
[320] BUCCANEERS (TB) -3-140 (B+1)
STRAIGHT BET
[318] COWBOYS (DAL) -8-140 (B+1½)
STRAIGHT BET
[305] TOTAL o47-130 (B+1)
(TEXANS (HOU) vrs TITANS (TEN))
STRAIGHT BET
[304] TOTAL u43-120 (B+½)
(CHIEFS (KC) vrs RAMS (SL))
These are all 3 unit plays:
3T SUPER TEASER Ties lose
[302] CHARGERS (SD) -½-110 (B+10)
[321] TOTAL o33½-110 (B+10)
(SAINTS (NO) vrs RAVENS (BAL))
[202] BYU -1½-110 (B+10)
4T MONSTER TEAS Ties lose
[302] CHARGERS (SD) +2½-110 (B+13)
[302] TOTAL u58½-110 (B+13)
(NINERS (SF) vrs CHARGERS (SD))
[321] SAINTS (NO) +15-110 (B+13)
[202] BYU +1½-110 (B+13)
4T MONSTER TEAS Ties lose
[302] CHARGERS (SD) +2½-110 (B+13)
[307] TOTAL o36-110 (B+13)
(JAGUARS (JAX) vrs COLTS (IND))
[321] SAINTS (NO) +15-110 (B+13)
[326] STEELERS (PIT) +7-110 (B+13)
4T MONSTER TEAS Ties lose
[301] TOTAL o32-110 (B+13)
(NINERS (SF) vrs CHARGERS (SD))
[302] CHARGERS (SD) +2½-110 (B+13)
[321] SAINTS (NO) +15-110 (B+13)
[326] STEELERS (PIT) +7-110 (B+13
4T MONSTER TEAS Ties lose
[307] JAGUARS (JAX) +17½-110 (B+13)
[316] GIANTS (NYG) +10-110 (B+13)
[318] COWBOYS (DAL) +3½-110 (B+13)
[321] TOTAL o32-110 (B+13)
(SAINTS (NO) vrs RAVENS (BAL))
NBA and other nfl parlays:
50 to win 100
PARLAY (4 TEAMS)
[302] CHARGERS (SD) -530
[326] STEELERS (PIT) -235
[328] RAIDERS (OAK) -285
[202] BYU -420
25 to win 135
PARLAY (4 TEAMS)
[307] JAGUARS (JAX) +185
[318] COWBOYS (DAL) -430
[320] BUCCANEERS (TB) -210
[328] RAIDERS (OAK) -400
20 to win 63
PARLAY (3 TEAMS)
[318] COWBOYS (DAL) -475
[319] LIONS (DET) +175
[328] RAIDERS (OAK) -400
this is 20 to win 378:
PARLAY (4 TEAMS)
[307] JAGUARS (JAX) +185
[318] COWBOYS (DAL) -475
[319] LIONS (DET) +175
[321] SAINTS (NO) +110
All nba bets are for 40 each:
STRAIGHT BET
[809] HORNETS (NO) -3-140 (B+1½)
STRAIGHT BET
[807] ROCKETS (HOU) -3-120 (B+½)
STRAIGHT BET
[805] LAKERS (LAL) -7-120 (B+½)
STRAIGHT BET
[804] TOTAL u184-130 (B+1)
(HAWKS (ATL) vrs NETS (NJ))
STRAIGHT BET
[802] TOTAL u195-130 (B+1)
(PACERS (IND) vrs CELTICS (BOS))
all these for 2 units..
STRAIGHT BET
[8155] TOTAL o28½-110
(TOTAL PTS BY PATRIOTS vrs TOTAL PTS BY PATRIOTS)
STRAIGHT BET
[8137] TOTAL o21-120
(TOTAL PTS BY SAINTS vrs TOTAL PTS BY SAINTS
STRAIGHT BET
[8109] TOTAL o21½-110
(TOTAL PTS BY JAGUARS vrs TOTAL PTS BY JAGUARS)
These are for 1 unit:
STRAIGHT BET
[320] BUCCANEERS (TB) -3-140 (B+1)
STRAIGHT BET
[318] COWBOYS (DAL) -8-140 (B+1½)
STRAIGHT BET
[305] TOTAL o47-130 (B+1)
(TEXANS (HOU) vrs TITANS (TEN))
STRAIGHT BET
[304] TOTAL u43-120 (B+½)
(CHIEFS (KC) vrs RAMS (SL))
These are all 3 unit plays:
3T SUPER TEASER Ties lose
[302] CHARGERS (SD) -½-110 (B+10)
[321] TOTAL o33½-110 (B+10)
(SAINTS (NO) vrs RAVENS (BAL))
[202] BYU -1½-110 (B+10)
4T MONSTER TEAS Ties lose
[302] CHARGERS (SD) +2½-110 (B+13)
[302] TOTAL u58½-110 (B+13)
(NINERS (SF) vrs CHARGERS (SD))
[321] SAINTS (NO) +15-110 (B+13)
[202] BYU +1½-110 (B+13)
4T MONSTER TEAS Ties lose
[302] CHARGERS (SD) +2½-110 (B+13)
[307] TOTAL o36-110 (B+13)
(JAGUARS (JAX) vrs COLTS (IND))
[321] SAINTS (NO) +15-110 (B+13)
[326] STEELERS (PIT) +7-110 (B+13)
4T MONSTER TEAS Ties lose
[301] TOTAL o32-110 (B+13)
(NINERS (SF) vrs CHARGERS (SD))
[302] CHARGERS (SD) +2½-110 (B+13)
[321] SAINTS (NO) +15-110 (B+13)
[326] STEELERS (PIT) +7-110 (B+13
4T MONSTER TEAS Ties lose
[307] JAGUARS (JAX) +17½-110 (B+13)
[316] GIANTS (NYG) +10-110 (B+13)
[318] COWBOYS (DAL) +3½-110 (B+13)
[321] TOTAL o32-110 (B+13)
(SAINTS (NO) vrs RAVENS (BAL))
NBA and other nfl parlays:
50 to win 100
PARLAY (4 TEAMS)
[302] CHARGERS (SD) -530
[326] STEELERS (PIT) -235
[328] RAIDERS (OAK) -285
[202] BYU -420
25 to win 135
PARLAY (4 TEAMS)
[307] JAGUARS (JAX) +185
[318] COWBOYS (DAL) -430
[320] BUCCANEERS (TB) -210
[328] RAIDERS (OAK) -400
20 to win 63
PARLAY (3 TEAMS)
[318] COWBOYS (DAL) -475
[319] LIONS (DET) +175
[328] RAIDERS (OAK) -400
this is 20 to win 378:
PARLAY (4 TEAMS)
[307] JAGUARS (JAX) +185
[318] COWBOYS (DAL) -475
[319] LIONS (DET) +175
[321] SAINTS (NO) +110
All nba bets are for 40 each:
STRAIGHT BET
[809] HORNETS (NO) -3-140 (B+1½)
STRAIGHT BET
[807] ROCKETS (HOU) -3-120 (B+½)
STRAIGHT BET
[805] LAKERS (LAL) -7-120 (B+½)
STRAIGHT BET
[804] TOTAL u184-130 (B+1)
(HAWKS (ATL) vrs NETS (NJ))
STRAIGHT BET
[802] TOTAL u195-130 (B+1)
(PACERS (IND) vrs CELTICS (BOS))
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
New Orleans Bowl, Bowl #3
Ohio vs. Troy, Troy -2 o/u 58
This game is a junk game and you have to be a true degenerate to bet on this. I will be all over Troy on this game. Ohio has given up over 300 yards passing their last 5 games, they lost their starting LB and now their best DB to injuries. Throw in the home crowd that Troy will have, and I have to give all sides to Troy.
As far as the total goes, I think this number is dead on as I see a 34-24 type game, so I will be laying off it straigh up( may put it in a tease). In a confidence pool, I would have this in the bottom third. Even though I say all this about Troy, these are still two crap teams so who knows.
This game is a junk game and you have to be a true degenerate to bet on this. I will be all over Troy on this game. Ohio has given up over 300 yards passing their last 5 games, they lost their starting LB and now their best DB to injuries. Throw in the home crowd that Troy will have, and I have to give all sides to Troy.
As far as the total goes, I think this number is dead on as I see a 34-24 type game, so I will be laying off it straigh up( may put it in a tease). In a confidence pool, I would have this in the bottom third. Even though I say all this about Troy, these are still two crap teams so who knows.
Actual Bowl Bets
As I bet more and more, I tend to lose track of my bets. This will help me track eery single bet I make during bowl season. I have always had success over the years betting on the bowl games, so we will see how it goes this year. I tend to wait until very close to the game to bet it, since you never know about suspensions, coach changes, weather, etc., but some of these I have already bet ahead of time. I will update in the comment section each time I ad an bet. So far I have these already in:
All placed on 12/10-
Fresno +2, 1 unit
GT +3, 1 unit
UGA -5, 1 unit
Wisc, +3, 2 units
4 team tease, 2 units:
army-won
over army-won
navy-won
fresno +14-pending
4 team tease, 2 units:
ravens-won
over ravens-won
giants-won
BYU +1.5-pending
All placed on 12/10-
Fresno +2, 1 unit
GT +3, 1 unit
UGA -5, 1 unit
Wisc, +3, 2 units
4 team tease, 2 units:
army-won
over army-won
navy-won
fresno +14-pending
4 team tease, 2 units:
ravens-won
over ravens-won
giants-won
BYU +1.5-pending
Humanitarian Bowl, Bowl game #2
Northern Illinois vs. Fresno, pretty much a pick -1 everywhere, o/u 59
This game has stay away written all over it.( of course we will all still be on it, because we are degenerates).
You have a NI team who is avg. 6.4 yards per rush( more then auburn and org) and they pretty much dominate every single stat on paper. You then have the intangibles with them. Their Head coach accepted the job at Minnesota and took his coordinator with him. Minn wanted him to start recruiting right away and not coach the bowl game. Their new coach( Dave Doeren, from Wisconsin) may be a good coach, but to ask someone to come in this late to a team/players he doesn't know and start coaching is tough.
On the other hand, Pat Hill is a great coach and will always have his team ready to play.
Suspensions:
Hill said linebacker Kyle Knox, receiver Matt Lindsay and linebacker Daniel Salinas did not accompany the team for the bowl game in Boise, Idaho.
Knox is second on the team with 74 tackles. Lindsay has 14 catches for 208 yards.
At the end of the day, I feel NI is a better team, but I will still take Fresno in this game as a small bet and in a confidence pool, they are in the bottom third. I will put a medium play on the over. I know conventional wisdom states that a running team lends towards the under due to running out the clock, but when you can eat up chunks of yards like that, scores happen a lot and play action produces tons of points. Fresno and the over are my plays for this
This game has stay away written all over it.( of course we will all still be on it, because we are degenerates).
You have a NI team who is avg. 6.4 yards per rush( more then auburn and org) and they pretty much dominate every single stat on paper. You then have the intangibles with them. Their Head coach accepted the job at Minnesota and took his coordinator with him. Minn wanted him to start recruiting right away and not coach the bowl game. Their new coach( Dave Doeren, from Wisconsin) may be a good coach, but to ask someone to come in this late to a team/players he doesn't know and start coaching is tough.
On the other hand, Pat Hill is a great coach and will always have his team ready to play.
Suspensions:
Hill said linebacker Kyle Knox, receiver Matt Lindsay and linebacker Daniel Salinas did not accompany the team for the bowl game in Boise, Idaho.
Knox is second on the team with 74 tackles. Lindsay has 14 catches for 208 yards.
At the end of the day, I feel NI is a better team, but I will still take Fresno in this game as a small bet and in a confidence pool, they are in the bottom third. I will put a medium play on the over. I know conventional wisdom states that a running team lends towards the under due to running out the clock, but when you can eat up chunks of yards like that, scores happen a lot and play action produces tons of points. Fresno and the over are my plays for this
New Mexico Bowl, bowl game #1
Utep vs. Byu in New Mexico. Byu -11.5, o/u is 50.
This game on paper shapes up to be a blowout. As we all know wiht bowl games, motivation is a key always a key to this. How excited/deflated is each team to be in this bowl? I will say that BYU has shown over the years to be excited to be in any bowl game.
If you were to use just power ratings, this would show BYU at 52 and UTEP at 114. UTEP SOS is awful and the teams they have beat are not good at all( hence the awful power rating).
On the other hand:
This game on paper shapes up to be a blowout. As we all know wiht bowl games, motivation is a key always a key to this. How excited/deflated is each team to be in this bowl? I will say that BYU has shown over the years to be excited to be in any bowl game.
If you were to use just power ratings, this would show BYU at 52 and UTEP at 114. UTEP SOS is awful and the teams they have beat are not good at all( hence the awful power rating).
On the other hand:
This isn't a new phenomenon -- UTEP's win over BYU in 1985 as a 36-point dog was the biggest upset ever until the Syracuse/UL and Stanford/USC upsets in 2007 -- but under Price favorites of 7 to 17 points in UTEP games are just 25-16 straight up and 14-27 ATS.
On top of that, UTEP finished final exams last week (Wednesday, I believe), while BYU's finals run from Monday through Friday this week.
All of that being said, I will have a medium play on BYU. As for the confidence pools I am in, this is in the top 5 games for me. UTEP may find a way to cover, but they do not have the talent to win this game outright. I could lean a little towards the under since BYU has been improving each game with thier def, but betting an under in a bowl game is a risky bet.
Vacation ruins a diet!!!
For the last 2 months, I have been so good with running, working out, trying to eat better, not drinking as much etc. Then, I went on a Trip to Texas for 4 days. Between the airports and the restaurants, I cancelled out everything I have worked on!!! It was totally worth it, and I love vacations, it is just funny when I look back at how awful I ate( even though it tasted great) when I was on vacation( however, I did go running once down there). I have tried to re-cap from what I remember everything I ate and drank, so I can look at this as a reminder of how not to eat now that I am back home.
Friday:
- pretzel bites and a soda at airport( with cheese dipping sauce) going to Austin.
- slice of pizza in carry-over airport
- Gatorade and sweetarts in hotel room
- chips and salsa at dinner
- steak fajita ( tex mex style) for dinner
- 2 beers and a mexican martini at dinner
- 3-4 liquor drinks, 3-4 shots, 2-3 beers at bars after dinner
Saturday:
- Gatorade
- fountain soda coke
- breakfast taco and steak taco for brunch
- 2 whiskey drinks at dinner
- 2 pieces of bread at dinner( very nice steak house)
- 8 oz. filet
- side of asparagus
- side of au gratin potatoes
Sunday:
- double cheeseburger
- fries
- large fountain soda
- large calzone
- slice of pizza
Monday:
- brisket sandwich
- beer
- sausage
- 1/2 pd cheeseburger
- Cheetos
- hot chocolate with baileys and whiskey in it
- 4 beers
Tuesday:
- iced coffee
- sausage, egg and cheese biscuit
- hash browns
- 4 slices of pizza
Friday:
- pretzel bites and a soda at airport( with cheese dipping sauce) going to Austin.
- slice of pizza in carry-over airport
- Gatorade and sweetarts in hotel room
- chips and salsa at dinner
- steak fajita ( tex mex style) for dinner
- 2 beers and a mexican martini at dinner
- 3-4 liquor drinks, 3-4 shots, 2-3 beers at bars after dinner
Saturday:
- Gatorade
- fountain soda coke
- breakfast taco and steak taco for brunch
- 2 whiskey drinks at dinner
- 2 pieces of bread at dinner( very nice steak house)
- 8 oz. filet
- side of asparagus
- side of au gratin potatoes
Sunday:
- double cheeseburger
- fries
- large fountain soda
- large calzone
- slice of pizza
Monday:
- brisket sandwich
- beer
- sausage
- 1/2 pd cheeseburger
- Cheetos
- hot chocolate with baileys and whiskey in it
- 4 beers
Tuesday:
- iced coffee
- sausage, egg and cheese biscuit
- hash browns
- 4 slices of pizza
Sunday, December 5, 2010
Bowl Season-watching and betting on it.
Bowl Season is now here. This is not only great for any college football fan, but it is also great for a football better. These games give fans a chance to see teams that they may not normally get to see and also a chance to see some match ups( bc of conference, money, etc) that they would never be able to see during the regular season.
As far as the games go, there will always be teams that make certain bowls that will be discussed and teams that did not deserve it( think of the ncaa bracket when a team is a #5 seed and everyone says they should have been a 10 seed) and you will also see teams that deserve to be in a bowl game or in a certain bowl game( look at az. state this year ).
As for the gambling side of it, it is also a great time for ncaa bettors/fans. You have plenty of time to evaluate and study each game. You have, for the most part( new years day etc. get a little busy) only 1-2 games a day, so you are not betting a huge amount of games on one day. If you have been betting on the games all year and know you teams, bowl season is always the time to pad your winnings( or re-coup losses) for the ncaa year.
When it comes to capping the bowl games, you have to look a little past how you would normally cap. Most bettors, or at least the ones that really care, will all use the same things. Power ratings, injuries, home field, previous match ups, etc. Obviously, the biggest differential and the biggest decision maker is your personal feelings towards the game. When it comes to bowl games, a lot of those same principals are still in play, but you have to consider some other things. First, home field advantage is not something you can just figure out. You have to do a little more research to see how many tickets each school was allotted, how many of said tickets were sold, and how many were bought by the other school. This is all information that can be found online. There are random occurrences where a team is very, very close to their home field, but that is a rarity during bowl season.
Next, you have to pay attention to motivation. Yes, this should be looked at for every game during the regular season s far as must-win games and things like that, but in bowl games it is a whole different animal. We see this every year, you have teams(think Oklahoma) that are disappointed in either their overall season or disappointed in the crappy bowl they got sent to instead of a good bowl they were hoping for. These are still college kids and unlike the pros, emotions play a huge factor in this. You need to look at both teams playing and take a look at their season. Did they go 7-5 and they are ecstatic to even make a bowl game( think Washington, army, etc) or did they go 8-4 and they are crushed because they were thinking they should be a 10-2 game. The point is, dont just see a team you assume is way better and will win/cover. You have to think about if they have given up on the season or if this bowl will make their whole season.
Another thing to pay close attention to, at least way more then the regular season games is suspensions for either a half or the game. I bring this up because the past always repeats itself, no matter what every coach will have you believe. You have so many games in so many cities where these kids have never been. Most of these teams are there at least a week in advance and every season you see people out missing curfew, you have people out drinking etc, and every year key people get suspended from a bowl game. This is more of a problem with the bowl games in huge, fun cities such as Miami, Vegas, Austin, etc, but again, make sure you pay attention to this.
Another thing you have to pay attention to( more for overs) is certain key players that are either seniors or juniors that you know are leaving school( moore, luck, locker, etc). You see coaches wanting to show them off and help their draft status. The game plan isnt much different then it normally would be, but when it comes down to the 4th quarter and late in the game, if it is a blow out, you seem to see these coaches leave their players in and let them show off a little more for the scouts etc. They also want to show respect to these players that have led their teams for the last couple years, and they dont want them finishing their season on the bench. This is not a stead-fast thing. There are also plenty of coaches, that will take a game that is starting to get to blow-out level and they will have in all of their subs to give them the bowl game experience.
There are plenty of other variables that go into betting into bowl games, but these are just some of the things that stick out for bowl game betting as compared to your normal college football betting.
This should be a great bowl season, and I will be posting full write-ups for each game as I do some more research on them.
As far as the games go, there will always be teams that make certain bowls that will be discussed and teams that did not deserve it( think of the ncaa bracket when a team is a #5 seed and everyone says they should have been a 10 seed) and you will also see teams that deserve to be in a bowl game or in a certain bowl game( look at az. state this year ).
As for the gambling side of it, it is also a great time for ncaa bettors/fans. You have plenty of time to evaluate and study each game. You have, for the most part( new years day etc. get a little busy) only 1-2 games a day, so you are not betting a huge amount of games on one day. If you have been betting on the games all year and know you teams, bowl season is always the time to pad your winnings( or re-coup losses) for the ncaa year.
When it comes to capping the bowl games, you have to look a little past how you would normally cap. Most bettors, or at least the ones that really care, will all use the same things. Power ratings, injuries, home field, previous match ups, etc. Obviously, the biggest differential and the biggest decision maker is your personal feelings towards the game. When it comes to bowl games, a lot of those same principals are still in play, but you have to consider some other things. First, home field advantage is not something you can just figure out. You have to do a little more research to see how many tickets each school was allotted, how many of said tickets were sold, and how many were bought by the other school. This is all information that can be found online. There are random occurrences where a team is very, very close to their home field, but that is a rarity during bowl season.
Next, you have to pay attention to motivation. Yes, this should be looked at for every game during the regular season s far as must-win games and things like that, but in bowl games it is a whole different animal. We see this every year, you have teams(think Oklahoma) that are disappointed in either their overall season or disappointed in the crappy bowl they got sent to instead of a good bowl they were hoping for. These are still college kids and unlike the pros, emotions play a huge factor in this. You need to look at both teams playing and take a look at their season. Did they go 7-5 and they are ecstatic to even make a bowl game( think Washington, army, etc) or did they go 8-4 and they are crushed because they were thinking they should be a 10-2 game. The point is, dont just see a team you assume is way better and will win/cover. You have to think about if they have given up on the season or if this bowl will make their whole season.
Another thing to pay close attention to, at least way more then the regular season games is suspensions for either a half or the game. I bring this up because the past always repeats itself, no matter what every coach will have you believe. You have so many games in so many cities where these kids have never been. Most of these teams are there at least a week in advance and every season you see people out missing curfew, you have people out drinking etc, and every year key people get suspended from a bowl game. This is more of a problem with the bowl games in huge, fun cities such as Miami, Vegas, Austin, etc, but again, make sure you pay attention to this.
Another thing you have to pay attention to( more for overs) is certain key players that are either seniors or juniors that you know are leaving school( moore, luck, locker, etc). You see coaches wanting to show them off and help their draft status. The game plan isnt much different then it normally would be, but when it comes down to the 4th quarter and late in the game, if it is a blow out, you seem to see these coaches leave their players in and let them show off a little more for the scouts etc. They also want to show respect to these players that have led their teams for the last couple years, and they dont want them finishing their season on the bench. This is not a stead-fast thing. There are also plenty of coaches, that will take a game that is starting to get to blow-out level and they will have in all of their subs to give them the bowl game experience.
There are plenty of other variables that go into betting into bowl games, but these are just some of the things that stick out for bowl game betting as compared to your normal college football betting.
This should be a great bowl season, and I will be posting full write-ups for each game as I do some more research on them.
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
How would I do in a true Corporate Setting?
Recently, I took my licensing test in a building where a lot of corporate offices are. I realized while I was in the elevator listening to very boring, mundane small talk that I think I would be very bored in the corporate world and that I am glad I do what I do.
My job has aspects of corporate that go along with it. We have managers and procedures and all accounting has to go through certain process. There are a lot of other things that make the company I work for corporate in a sense, but being in sales is still so different then say your typical, all corporate, 9-5 workplace.
The thing that jumps out me almost every day is how we have to dress and the hours I have to work. There are so many days that I am still in sweats walking the dogs in the Am, and I see everyone leaving for work in their full suits or if their company allows, they are in a tucked in shirt with nice pants. By the time it is time for me to leave to go to work, I am ready in my jeans and whatever shirt I want to wear( hopefully flops depending on weather) and I am out the door. I don't have an exact schedule. I have a time I have to be here, but if I am late or just come in later, it is no big deal. As long as I am getting my work done, it doesn't really matter what time I get in/leave. I remember when I worked in the real corporate world, if I was 10 minutes late, people were looking at me and I could get in trouble.
There are a lot of other reasons and I know the reasons I give just sound lazy, but they are not and I love what I do. When I did work in the corporate world, i worked very hard. I would get in early, stay late, always be dressed up and I just got used to that way of life. Now that I am back in this type of work, I have gotten back into this way of life and I realize just how much better I like this. I get paid more now, I love my job way more, and I like my lifestyle more. I still get insurance. I am missing out no certain perks of the corporate world, but I also think people in the corporate world are missing out on so many percs that I have.
At the end of the day, when I really think about it, I feel i am way better suited for this type of job then compared to my old job in good old corporate America.
My job has aspects of corporate that go along with it. We have managers and procedures and all accounting has to go through certain process. There are a lot of other things that make the company I work for corporate in a sense, but being in sales is still so different then say your typical, all corporate, 9-5 workplace.
The thing that jumps out me almost every day is how we have to dress and the hours I have to work. There are so many days that I am still in sweats walking the dogs in the Am, and I see everyone leaving for work in their full suits or if their company allows, they are in a tucked in shirt with nice pants. By the time it is time for me to leave to go to work, I am ready in my jeans and whatever shirt I want to wear( hopefully flops depending on weather) and I am out the door. I don't have an exact schedule. I have a time I have to be here, but if I am late or just come in later, it is no big deal. As long as I am getting my work done, it doesn't really matter what time I get in/leave. I remember when I worked in the real corporate world, if I was 10 minutes late, people were looking at me and I could get in trouble.
There are a lot of other reasons and I know the reasons I give just sound lazy, but they are not and I love what I do. When I did work in the corporate world, i worked very hard. I would get in early, stay late, always be dressed up and I just got used to that way of life. Now that I am back in this type of work, I have gotten back into this way of life and I realize just how much better I like this. I get paid more now, I love my job way more, and I like my lifestyle more. I still get insurance. I am missing out no certain perks of the corporate world, but I also think people in the corporate world are missing out on so many percs that I have.
At the end of the day, when I really think about it, I feel i am way better suited for this type of job then compared to my old job in good old corporate America.
Betting on the NBA is done
I tried this for a while, but honestly, the draw of it is just not there. I think the biggest problem is that I am not really a fan of the NBA. Therefore, betting on it became very boring. I couldnt even watch a full game that I had money on, and that really turned me off from it. I think at the end of my betting I ended up right around even, or just a little on the plus side, but there is just no fun or joy in it for me at all, so I decided to stop. I gamble on enough, that I dont need to throw in a sport I dont really like to even watch on tv in the mix.
Hypocracy at The U, Indiana coach fired?
College Football coaches get fired all the time. At this point in my life, I have watched and followed college football long enough to know the ins and outs of the sports and what it is really all about, MONEY!!!!!
That being said, every once in a while there is a story that comes out that truly surprises me. In the last couple of weeks, Indiana and Miami both fired their head coaches. Both of these firings amaze me for different reasons. As for the money aspect of it and how I think the money affects coach hirings and firings, the BCS, etc. that will be saved for another time. For now, on to why these two firings stood out to me above any other normal season of coaches being hired/fired.
First, The coach of Indiana got fired after posting just one win in the big 10. Normally, a coach with one win in conference that gets fired is no big deal, but in this case I just dont get it. Indiana is a basketball school and it always will be. Randel-El went there and he is a NFL star and since then they have done nothing. They are in a power 6 conference and they will never, ever be able to compete with the big boys( mich, mich st, ohio st, etc). Yes, every once in a while they will have an upset win, but they will always be a basketball school and their football team will never be able to be good. They just dont recruit for that and they never will be( think Duke, wash st, temple etc).
I understand the flip side of the new big ten. They will now have enough teams to have 2 conferences and will be able to gain way more money for the conf. and they want all the schools to be able to compete more. I think that the AD and president of Indiana think that the new big ten will be able to attract a newer, bigger name coach. The real life situation is that they are Indiana and no one wants to coach there and no one wants to play for them.
Who cares if they won 1 game in conf. last year. You are Indiana, you still have a good graduation rate etc, don't fire the coach. I am not sure what they think a new coach will bring, but I don't see any way in the next 10 years the will ever be able to get more then 4 wins in conf.
NOW, for the Miami situation. This is totally different the situation mentioned above. The U used to be a powerhouse. They used to be feared and respected at the same time. They used to be favored in every game they played and every kid in the country wanted to play there. They ran into some hard times a while ago and the program was in serious trouble both with play on the field and behavior off of the field. They fell to the lowest graduation rate of players for any school in a power 6 conf.
The school president and AD held a huge press conference when they hired Randy Shannon and they said that their number one priority with this hiring was to turn the program around and to get the right kinds of kids there. They vowed that their number one priority was to get graduation rate up and winning was second. Well, 4 years later, Miami now has the third highest graduation rate in all of d-1 football. They have cut down all of the off-the-field arrests etc. The program is now cleaned up. They brought in the right coach for the job and he got done exactly what was promised. However, in that time, the talent on the field has gone dramatically downhill. The U is no longer feared, no longer respected. They are probably the 4th choice in state for kids to go to instead of being a unanimous #1. Because of that, Shannon got fired. Yes, his stats for a big time program were awful and because of that I understand the firing. What I don't understand is if you fire him, how does the AD not get fired also.
The AD brought him in and made it very clear that winning and bowl games were not top priority and that everything else was. It turns out that was all a lie, and winning and bowl games and money were the most important thing. Graduation rate, a clean program etc. were not actual priorities for them. This is not surprising at all, since it is all about money and winning, but why put on a 4-year charade about education and a clean program when all you really wanted was the complete opposite.
That being said, every once in a while there is a story that comes out that truly surprises me. In the last couple of weeks, Indiana and Miami both fired their head coaches. Both of these firings amaze me for different reasons. As for the money aspect of it and how I think the money affects coach hirings and firings, the BCS, etc. that will be saved for another time. For now, on to why these two firings stood out to me above any other normal season of coaches being hired/fired.
First, The coach of Indiana got fired after posting just one win in the big 10. Normally, a coach with one win in conference that gets fired is no big deal, but in this case I just dont get it. Indiana is a basketball school and it always will be. Randel-El went there and he is a NFL star and since then they have done nothing. They are in a power 6 conference and they will never, ever be able to compete with the big boys( mich, mich st, ohio st, etc). Yes, every once in a while they will have an upset win, but they will always be a basketball school and their football team will never be able to be good. They just dont recruit for that and they never will be( think Duke, wash st, temple etc).
I understand the flip side of the new big ten. They will now have enough teams to have 2 conferences and will be able to gain way more money for the conf. and they want all the schools to be able to compete more. I think that the AD and president of Indiana think that the new big ten will be able to attract a newer, bigger name coach. The real life situation is that they are Indiana and no one wants to coach there and no one wants to play for them.
Who cares if they won 1 game in conf. last year. You are Indiana, you still have a good graduation rate etc, don't fire the coach. I am not sure what they think a new coach will bring, but I don't see any way in the next 10 years the will ever be able to get more then 4 wins in conf.
NOW, for the Miami situation. This is totally different the situation mentioned above. The U used to be a powerhouse. They used to be feared and respected at the same time. They used to be favored in every game they played and every kid in the country wanted to play there. They ran into some hard times a while ago and the program was in serious trouble both with play on the field and behavior off of the field. They fell to the lowest graduation rate of players for any school in a power 6 conf.
The school president and AD held a huge press conference when they hired Randy Shannon and they said that their number one priority with this hiring was to turn the program around and to get the right kinds of kids there. They vowed that their number one priority was to get graduation rate up and winning was second. Well, 4 years later, Miami now has the third highest graduation rate in all of d-1 football. They have cut down all of the off-the-field arrests etc. The program is now cleaned up. They brought in the right coach for the job and he got done exactly what was promised. However, in that time, the talent on the field has gone dramatically downhill. The U is no longer feared, no longer respected. They are probably the 4th choice in state for kids to go to instead of being a unanimous #1. Because of that, Shannon got fired. Yes, his stats for a big time program were awful and because of that I understand the firing. What I don't understand is if you fire him, how does the AD not get fired also.
The AD brought him in and made it very clear that winning and bowl games were not top priority and that everything else was. It turns out that was all a lie, and winning and bowl games and money were the most important thing. Graduation rate, a clean program etc. were not actual priorities for them. This is not surprising at all, since it is all about money and winning, but why put on a 4-year charade about education and a clean program when all you really wanted was the complete opposite.
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
betting on nba
I am going to start betting on the NBA this year. I have not really done that much in the past, but like any other sport, with enough knowledge and reaserch, I know I can be successfull at it. Like baseball, I have to be patient, it is a long season with a lot of ups and downs.
I do know that a team name doesnt mean anything, and the most important things are teams on road trips, back to back games vs. fresh teams, certain ref tendancies for overs/under, ref tendancies for foul calls( all stats from prev. seasons are available), and matchups.
I will be updating my sheet every day, and I will only be betting $20 a game for the whole season and we will see how it goes.
I do know that a team name doesnt mean anything, and the most important things are teams on road trips, back to back games vs. fresh teams, certain ref tendancies for overs/under, ref tendancies for foul calls( all stats from prev. seasons are available), and matchups.
I will be updating my sheet every day, and I will only be betting $20 a game for the whole season and we will see how it goes.
Monday, September 27, 2010
going to bars
In the last 6-8 weeks, I really haven't been out to bars at all, and I have no problem with it. When I do go out to a bar, I have fun, and I still do out from time to time ,but it is always for a reason, it is never just to go to a bar to get wasted. It is nice to know that I don't need to be doing that anymore and it is nice to know that I can still enjoy it while im out, but I really dont want to be there and I don't feel the need to go there.
It used to be when I would go out, people would say things like they haven't seen me for a while and ask where I have been and stuff like I haven't been around just because they didnt see me at bars. That used to get me to almost get defensive and it would make me think that I need to be out more etc. I them realized that most of the people that say that have never once invited me to go anywhere with them that isnt a bar, and that if they really were my friend or really wanted to hang out, they would invite me to their house or to a party or anywhere that wasnt a bar. I am now at the point where when people say that to me, I just responded, you are right, I have been doing other things to enjoy my life. If someone is only going to be my friend if I am out to a bar with them, then I don't need that person to be a friend.
Don't get me wrong, I still love to have fun and I love a good time, but I don't need that good time to be spending all day and all night at a bar just getting wasted. Last Sunday, a bunch of us were out at a bar for the Ravens game. The game ended and we went home and hung out and did things and had a great rest of the Sunday. The majority of my friends stayed out, got wasted all day and night etc, and they all said they had a great time. I know they had their fun, but that type of fun of spending all day and night at a bar is just not appealing to me anymore and I really don't need to be doing that to have fun.
I guess this all stems from the fact that I am happy with my life, I love my gf, I love being with her and spending time with her, and sitting with her on our couch just doing nothing is more fun and enjoyable to me then any night at the bars. I just hate that it took me this long in my life to realize it. I do hope that the people I know that are still going out to bars 2-4 days every week and getting blackout wasted all the time, will eventually find something else that makes them happy instead of getting wasted all the time. I am not saying that is a bad thing, because I used to do it, and it can be a lot of fun, I just think for me, at my age and where I am in my life, that part of my life is behind me and having fun for a couple hours is one thing, but the all day and all night drinking fests at a bar and the hangovers and all of that are something in the past for me.
It used to be when I would go out, people would say things like they haven't seen me for a while and ask where I have been and stuff like I haven't been around just because they didnt see me at bars. That used to get me to almost get defensive and it would make me think that I need to be out more etc. I them realized that most of the people that say that have never once invited me to go anywhere with them that isnt a bar, and that if they really were my friend or really wanted to hang out, they would invite me to their house or to a party or anywhere that wasnt a bar. I am now at the point where when people say that to me, I just responded, you are right, I have been doing other things to enjoy my life. If someone is only going to be my friend if I am out to a bar with them, then I don't need that person to be a friend.
Don't get me wrong, I still love to have fun and I love a good time, but I don't need that good time to be spending all day and all night at a bar just getting wasted. Last Sunday, a bunch of us were out at a bar for the Ravens game. The game ended and we went home and hung out and did things and had a great rest of the Sunday. The majority of my friends stayed out, got wasted all day and night etc, and they all said they had a great time. I know they had their fun, but that type of fun of spending all day and night at a bar is just not appealing to me anymore and I really don't need to be doing that to have fun.
I guess this all stems from the fact that I am happy with my life, I love my gf, I love being with her and spending time with her, and sitting with her on our couch just doing nothing is more fun and enjoyable to me then any night at the bars. I just hate that it took me this long in my life to realize it. I do hope that the people I know that are still going out to bars 2-4 days every week and getting blackout wasted all the time, will eventually find something else that makes them happy instead of getting wasted all the time. I am not saying that is a bad thing, because I used to do it, and it can be a lot of fun, I just think for me, at my age and where I am in my life, that part of my life is behind me and having fun for a couple hours is one thing, but the all day and all night drinking fests at a bar and the hangovers and all of that are something in the past for me.
true happiness
I have always thought of myself as a happy person, but I always had things that would get me sad and bring me down etc. Recently, I have found myself way more happy and just always in a good mood. Of course, I still have things that stress me out and things I worry about it and things that get me down etc, but overall I am just so happy with my life right now and the people in my life, that those things seem not as big of as a deal as they used to be, and I can just go along being happy with my life now.
I realize now, that all the times I thought I was happy, I was not truly happy, it was more of a shield and a cover and I would just ignore all of the down things. Now I am at a point, where if something is wrong or upsetting me etc, I deal with it, but at the end of the day, it doesn't get me down or stress me out anymore. I know that is because I am truly happy, and I know that being happy with myself and my life is the most important thing. It is so great to know that I am happy from minute I wake up until the minute I fall asleep. I have been waiting a long time to be this happy, and I finally glad that my life is in a place where I am truly happy.
I realize now, that all the times I thought I was happy, I was not truly happy, it was more of a shield and a cover and I would just ignore all of the down things. Now I am at a point, where if something is wrong or upsetting me etc, I deal with it, but at the end of the day, it doesn't get me down or stress me out anymore. I know that is because I am truly happy, and I know that being happy with myself and my life is the most important thing. It is so great to know that I am happy from minute I wake up until the minute I fall asleep. I have been waiting a long time to be this happy, and I finally glad that my life is in a place where I am truly happy.
Thursday, August 5, 2010
Death of a friend's parent
When someone I know and someone I am Friends with has a parent die, I take it very hard. There are many reasons for this, but I think the main two are that a. I never fully coped with my mom's death and it still eats at me how the whole funeral/ grieving situation was handled and b. I know( unfortunately) how difficult it is to lose a parent.
I try to be there for them as much as I can. Sometimes that means just showing up at a viewing, sometimes it means doing the eulogy, sometimes it just means being able to answer a phone call and listen to them. Whatever it is, I am more then willing to do.
I remember when my mom died, thinking that I do not want anyone I know to have to go through this pain and overall shitty feeling.
I try to be there for them as much as I can. Sometimes that means just showing up at a viewing, sometimes it means doing the eulogy, sometimes it just means being able to answer a phone call and listen to them. Whatever it is, I am more then willing to do.
I remember when my mom died, thinking that I do not want anyone I know to have to go through this pain and overall shitty feeling.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Am I a good person or a bad person
I have been thinking about this a lot lately. At first impression I say, of course I am a good person. Then, someone told me that I was a bad person and that I have no morals and that they can't trust me, and that they think I am just an overall bad person. That me think a lot about my life and who I truly am.
I started to think that if someone said name 5 of your friends who are good people, I could do that in a second, and if they said name 5 people you know that are just bad people, I could do that very quickly also. I started to wonder that if anyone I knew would put me in either category. I would like to think that I would sometimes be in the first category, and I would hope that I would never be in the second category. Yes, I have made some mistakes in the past, and I have done things I am not happy or proud that I did, but that doesnt make me a bad person at all.
When I think of an overall good person, I think of someone that more times then not is always doing the right thing, they are always nice, they are not dicking people over, they love their family, they have good friends, and you just know that you can always count on them if you need them. When I think of someone that is a bad person with no morals, I think of someone who mainly only cares about them self. They are the person that if there is ever something bad that can be done, they will 100 out of 100 times take that route. They will be rude and mean to everyone, except for whatever people they are hanging out with at that minute, if they are a guy, they will only acknowledge a girl if there is chance they could sleep with them, and if not, they will not even say hi and they will be a complete dick to that girl. There are other things, but I guess I just want to always be considered in the top part of that.
An example of an overall good person is Brad Carey. 6 of us went out on a charted rockfish trip a couple years ago. There is a limit on how many rockfish you can actually catch and keep. I had no idea of this. I am not a big fisher,but all of the other guys on the trip were. Apparently, most people if they are having a good day will just keep some over the limit, because no one actually checks in the coolers and counts them. Well, we hit the limit for how many we could catch, and 3 of the guys wanted to keep fishing and keeping more, and brad was addiment about not keeping any more bc that was against the rules, and he would not participate or stand by anything like that. It was at that moment, I realized how good of a person he was.
With me, I think I am a great person. I care more about making other people happy then I do keeping myself happy. that can be a fault sometimes, but I just always want all my friends to be happy and they all know that no matter what, I will always be there for them no matter what they need. I am a good person, and I know I am a good person. The problem is I have made mistakes in the past and made some bad decisions that give the impression that I am not a good person and because of that, I still have to live knowing that certain people still view me as a bad person, and that eats me up every day :(
I started to think that if someone said name 5 of your friends who are good people, I could do that in a second, and if they said name 5 people you know that are just bad people, I could do that very quickly also. I started to wonder that if anyone I knew would put me in either category. I would like to think that I would sometimes be in the first category, and I would hope that I would never be in the second category. Yes, I have made some mistakes in the past, and I have done things I am not happy or proud that I did, but that doesnt make me a bad person at all.
When I think of an overall good person, I think of someone that more times then not is always doing the right thing, they are always nice, they are not dicking people over, they love their family, they have good friends, and you just know that you can always count on them if you need them. When I think of someone that is a bad person with no morals, I think of someone who mainly only cares about them self. They are the person that if there is ever something bad that can be done, they will 100 out of 100 times take that route. They will be rude and mean to everyone, except for whatever people they are hanging out with at that minute, if they are a guy, they will only acknowledge a girl if there is chance they could sleep with them, and if not, they will not even say hi and they will be a complete dick to that girl. There are other things, but I guess I just want to always be considered in the top part of that.
An example of an overall good person is Brad Carey. 6 of us went out on a charted rockfish trip a couple years ago. There is a limit on how many rockfish you can actually catch and keep. I had no idea of this. I am not a big fisher,but all of the other guys on the trip were. Apparently, most people if they are having a good day will just keep some over the limit, because no one actually checks in the coolers and counts them. Well, we hit the limit for how many we could catch, and 3 of the guys wanted to keep fishing and keeping more, and brad was addiment about not keeping any more bc that was against the rules, and he would not participate or stand by anything like that. It was at that moment, I realized how good of a person he was.
With me, I think I am a great person. I care more about making other people happy then I do keeping myself happy. that can be a fault sometimes, but I just always want all my friends to be happy and they all know that no matter what, I will always be there for them no matter what they need. I am a good person, and I know I am a good person. The problem is I have made mistakes in the past and made some bad decisions that give the impression that I am not a good person and because of that, I still have to live knowing that certain people still view me as a bad person, and that eats me up every day :(
Do I really care what people think, and if I do, how do you change that?
Here is the problem with suffering from depression. You find yourself always worrying and you find yourself wanting people to like you, and you find yourself wanting acceptance from other people. For me, that is so crazy, because the majority of my life, I have done what I want, how I want, and people can either like me or not. But, at the same time, I do think that people don't like me, and there are certain times that I want people to view me a certain way, and I want people to not necessarily like me, but at least to have a good impression of me. As I am sitting here typing this, I am realizing how stupid this would seem to any person that read it, but at the same time, most people do not go through what I go through on a daily basis with the depression and the self esteem issues etc.
I have led my life a certain way ever since I got divorced. I am not sure if it was the divorce that triggered it, or what it is, but since then I feel like my life has been in a downward spiral. I was living in a house with my gf/fiance, I was gardening every day, our big night out was dinner then home to a movie, I didnt have the need to always be at a bar, i didn't care what any one thought of me, I didnt need to be out etc. For some reason, once I kicked her out of the house, my life went downhill. Certain things were great, i had some great times, I met some great people, I gained some great friends, but overall it's like I went from being a grown up and I just started regressing at a rapid pace. Part of the problem was everyone just empathized with it and encouraged it and was like, just get it all out of your system. The problem, is that is not who I was, and it didn't really show what type of person i am. Because of how I was living my life, I lost perspective of who I really was, and what I really stood for.
Next thing I know, 3 years has passed and I woke up and found myself still living that life. I looked back and I saw how many mistakes I had made and how many bad desicions I had made, how I had hurt people I truly cared about, and I realized the overall way I was leading my life and how that was not the person I want to me, and that was not the person that I truly was on the inside. At that point, I realized I had to change everything about my life to get to a place that I was happy with and to start living my life the way I wanted it and to get back to being the person that I know I truly am. The first thing was to move out and to live on my own. That was huge for me. that got me away from some very bad influences in my life. From that point on, every day I am working to get my life back together to the way I want it to be. I want to make up for every bad desicion made. I wish I could un-hurt every person I hurt, and I wish I could change the opinion that so many people about me. I know I can't and I know that is just something I am going to have to live with now.
The flip side of that is over the last 3 years, I have led a life I am not exactly proud of. I have come across a lot of people over that time. I truly wish I could go back and change the perception that so many people have about me, but I know that is not something that can happen. All I know is that every day of my life, I just have to live my life the way I want it, and to live it the way that makes me the happiest and maybe over time people will see I truly have changed and they will see me for person I truly am, and not the immature, irresponsible, stupid, drinking to much, caring to much about social acceptance, person that I have been over the last 3 years.
I have led my life a certain way ever since I got divorced. I am not sure if it was the divorce that triggered it, or what it is, but since then I feel like my life has been in a downward spiral. I was living in a house with my gf/fiance, I was gardening every day, our big night out was dinner then home to a movie, I didnt have the need to always be at a bar, i didn't care what any one thought of me, I didnt need to be out etc. For some reason, once I kicked her out of the house, my life went downhill. Certain things were great, i had some great times, I met some great people, I gained some great friends, but overall it's like I went from being a grown up and I just started regressing at a rapid pace. Part of the problem was everyone just empathized with it and encouraged it and was like, just get it all out of your system. The problem, is that is not who I was, and it didn't really show what type of person i am. Because of how I was living my life, I lost perspective of who I really was, and what I really stood for.
Next thing I know, 3 years has passed and I woke up and found myself still living that life. I looked back and I saw how many mistakes I had made and how many bad desicions I had made, how I had hurt people I truly cared about, and I realized the overall way I was leading my life and how that was not the person I want to me, and that was not the person that I truly was on the inside. At that point, I realized I had to change everything about my life to get to a place that I was happy with and to start living my life the way I wanted it and to get back to being the person that I know I truly am. The first thing was to move out and to live on my own. That was huge for me. that got me away from some very bad influences in my life. From that point on, every day I am working to get my life back together to the way I want it to be. I want to make up for every bad desicion made. I wish I could un-hurt every person I hurt, and I wish I could change the opinion that so many people about me. I know I can't and I know that is just something I am going to have to live with now.
The flip side of that is over the last 3 years, I have led a life I am not exactly proud of. I have come across a lot of people over that time. I truly wish I could go back and change the perception that so many people have about me, but I know that is not something that can happen. All I know is that every day of my life, I just have to live my life the way I want it, and to live it the way that makes me the happiest and maybe over time people will see I truly have changed and they will see me for person I truly am, and not the immature, irresponsible, stupid, drinking to much, caring to much about social acceptance, person that I have been over the last 3 years.
30,000 americans a year commit suicide
Some people think suicide is one of the most selfish things a person can do. I on the other hand, 100% understand why people do it. I have to assume that most people that do it are deeply depressed and sad and that combines with not having people to talk to about it, not having people you can trust and the feeling that no matter what you do in your life, things will never be better.
More and more every day I understand why people do this and I just feel bad for them. I have to assume that if that many people kill them self each year, I have to think that probably 10 times as many people have the thought somewhere along the lime.
Most people do not know what it is like to be depressed every day. Most people do not know what it is like so be sad and have low self-esteem every day. Most people can not grasp that every day you wake up, even if you have things going good for you, you are still down, you still are stressed, you still think people are judging you, or saying things about you etc. The point is, when you suffer from serious depression and you get anxiety and you have low self-esteem or any sort of combo of those, life is very difficult on an everyday basis.
I think one of the main reasons people do commit suicide has to do with not being able to talk to anyone about the feelings they have. You can not go to your parents and talk to them, because they will over react. You convince yourself that what you are thinking is dumb and stupid and you aren't really that depressed and you would never do anything, so there is no reason to tell your parents. You can not go to any of your friends, even your best friends, because you feel so ashamed and embarrassed about how you feel and you realize that they wouldn't understand and when you suffer from depression and the low self-esteem you convince yourself that not only would no one care about any of your problems, but that no one else is depressed at all and no one else is sad and that everyone else's life is perfect so you get to scared/embarrassed to talk to them about it. Instead, you are stuck by yourself in this depressed bubble of life and every day is a struggle. Yes, they have all types of pills you can take that can help, but one of the main problems is that when any little thing happens, instead of just letting it happen and then move on from it, you end up dwelling on it and it eats you up inside. You end up not wanting to go out in public, you get this feeling of all you want to do is crawl up in a ball or just turn off all the lights and hide in your room from the world.
I guess the point is, I understand why people do kill themselves, and under no circumstance is it selfish at all. I can see if someone, say a father of 3, gets fired, go and gets hammered and kills himself thinking he can not go on or something like that. But, for the most part, it is people that are truly depressed. They have either never talked to anyone about it, or they just do not know how to deal with it. They truly think that not only would no one miss them at all if they killed them self, they also think that their life is just so shitty that no matter what it can not get better and nothing can make them happy. When you have those thoughts all the time, it can add up, and then they end up doing it. It is a very awful thing, but again, the average person doesn't get it, and the average person has a good, happy life and they could never understand what it is like to be depressed and get sad and to think that everything is down and that things could never get better.
More and more every day I understand why people do this and I just feel bad for them. I have to assume that if that many people kill them self each year, I have to think that probably 10 times as many people have the thought somewhere along the lime.
Most people do not know what it is like to be depressed every day. Most people do not know what it is like so be sad and have low self-esteem every day. Most people can not grasp that every day you wake up, even if you have things going good for you, you are still down, you still are stressed, you still think people are judging you, or saying things about you etc. The point is, when you suffer from serious depression and you get anxiety and you have low self-esteem or any sort of combo of those, life is very difficult on an everyday basis.
I think one of the main reasons people do commit suicide has to do with not being able to talk to anyone about the feelings they have. You can not go to your parents and talk to them, because they will over react. You convince yourself that what you are thinking is dumb and stupid and you aren't really that depressed and you would never do anything, so there is no reason to tell your parents. You can not go to any of your friends, even your best friends, because you feel so ashamed and embarrassed about how you feel and you realize that they wouldn't understand and when you suffer from depression and the low self-esteem you convince yourself that not only would no one care about any of your problems, but that no one else is depressed at all and no one else is sad and that everyone else's life is perfect so you get to scared/embarrassed to talk to them about it. Instead, you are stuck by yourself in this depressed bubble of life and every day is a struggle. Yes, they have all types of pills you can take that can help, but one of the main problems is that when any little thing happens, instead of just letting it happen and then move on from it, you end up dwelling on it and it eats you up inside. You end up not wanting to go out in public, you get this feeling of all you want to do is crawl up in a ball or just turn off all the lights and hide in your room from the world.
I guess the point is, I understand why people do kill themselves, and under no circumstance is it selfish at all. I can see if someone, say a father of 3, gets fired, go and gets hammered and kills himself thinking he can not go on or something like that. But, for the most part, it is people that are truly depressed. They have either never talked to anyone about it, or they just do not know how to deal with it. They truly think that not only would no one miss them at all if they killed them self, they also think that their life is just so shitty that no matter what it can not get better and nothing can make them happy. When you have those thoughts all the time, it can add up, and then they end up doing it. It is a very awful thing, but again, the average person doesn't get it, and the average person has a good, happy life and they could never understand what it is like to be depressed and get sad and to think that everything is down and that things could never get better.
Monday, July 19, 2010
what i want in poker/ why I play
I love playing poker, and I know I am good at it. I also know I am not a professional, but I also know I am way better then a lot of people. I am starting a whole other blog just dedicated to poker, but I am going to be playing it a lot more. I want to be able to play and still have fun but also make money. There are very different strategies on how to play and how to be succesfull, and they are very different for online and for live play. I will discuss them in way more detail in the other blog, but I just know that I want to be successful in poker. I am not doing it to quit my job, right now I am using it as another source of income, but I do know that it is something I am good at and it is something I truly love to do.
One of the things I love about poker is how I feel at the table. I have a lot always going on in my life, and honestly a lot of it is not always good. I get depressed, I get sad, I get stressed out etc. When I am at the poker table, all of that goes away. I am just enjoying what I am doing and I am only thinking about poker. All of the bad and depressing things and stressful things in my life dissapear. This is huge. I guess this is what it is like to have a true hobby.
I used to play golf a lot, and I could get this same feeling from golf, but it is slightly different in poker.
One of the things I love about poker is how I feel at the table. I have a lot always going on in my life, and honestly a lot of it is not always good. I get depressed, I get sad, I get stressed out etc. When I am at the poker table, all of that goes away. I am just enjoying what I am doing and I am only thinking about poker. All of the bad and depressing things and stressful things in my life dissapear. This is huge. I guess this is what it is like to have a true hobby.
I used to play golf a lot, and I could get this same feeling from golf, but it is slightly different in poker.
my dog getting old
The other night there was an earthquake at 5am. I didn't hear it or feel it, but I guess it was enough to freak my dog out. I woke up to her in her dog bed whimpering and shaking. I sat with her and she just cuddled up to me. and let me pet her and I couldn't figure out what was wrong. Over time, she went back to sleep, but it truly freaked me out.
I couldn't get back to sleep at all after that. It was then that I realized that something wasn't really wrong with her, but also I realized that she is coming up being 7 years old and for a dog, I know that is really old. It got me very freaked out, that my dog could be getting old and in turn getting sick and could die soon.
Yes, I have had friends and family die and when I was 17 my cat died and when I was 15 my dog died, but this is a totally different feeling. Summer has been my dog, my life, she has been part of me for the last 7 years. Every day she is there for me no matter good or bad. I would never expect anyone that didn't have a dog to understand how I feel, even when I am mad at her, I still love her.
Seeing her like that the other night, made me realize that she is getting old and that I may not have tons of time left with her and that makes me very sad and very upset.
I couldn't get back to sleep at all after that. It was then that I realized that something wasn't really wrong with her, but also I realized that she is coming up being 7 years old and for a dog, I know that is really old. It got me very freaked out, that my dog could be getting old and in turn getting sick and could die soon.
Yes, I have had friends and family die and when I was 17 my cat died and when I was 15 my dog died, but this is a totally different feeling. Summer has been my dog, my life, she has been part of me for the last 7 years. Every day she is there for me no matter good or bad. I would never expect anyone that didn't have a dog to understand how I feel, even when I am mad at her, I still love her.
Seeing her like that the other night, made me realize that she is getting old and that I may not have tons of time left with her and that makes me very sad and very upset.
Monday, May 3, 2010
My April Goals down, on to May
I set out in April certain goals for myself. I wanted to work harder at work, save money, get my living situation figured out, and work on my side business. I feel like I have been able to accomplish those goals and now I can move on to setting new goals for myself for the month of May. I know I will be out of town for 3 weekends in May and that will eat into some of my time, but I feel like I can still get my goals done.
I was able to find a new, one bedroom apartment to move into, and I should be fully moved in by this weekend. I have been doing a good job at saving money and still being able to enjoy my life. Last week was sort of slow at work, but other then that, I did a good job of working hard and trying to get things going. For my side business, I met with the promotion company twice and we came up for a general time line to get the business started and how we are going to market and advertise it.
For May, my goals are pretty much the same thing, minus getting my living situation figured out.
I was able to find a new, one bedroom apartment to move into, and I should be fully moved in by this weekend. I have been doing a good job at saving money and still being able to enjoy my life. Last week was sort of slow at work, but other then that, I did a good job of working hard and trying to get things going. For my side business, I met with the promotion company twice and we came up for a general time line to get the business started and how we are going to market and advertise it.
For May, my goals are pretty much the same thing, minus getting my living situation figured out.
Monday, April 19, 2010
my dad
Over the years I have gained a different type of appreciation for my dad. My dad and I are exactly like in almost every day( granted he is taller, balder and can hold a tan way better then I can), but other then that we are almost exactly a like. WE act the same, talk the same, have the same manurisms etc.
The biggest difference between is that I am not nearly the overall person that he is. He is a great person on the inside and 100 out of 100 times will choose to do the right thing. I want to get to that point. I feel like in my life, I am not quite there yet and I want to get to be that type of person.
I have never told my father this and how much I respect him as a person, but I do know that if I can become the exact type of person that he is, my life will be way better.
The biggest difference between is that I am not nearly the overall person that he is. He is a great person on the inside and 100 out of 100 times will choose to do the right thing. I want to get to that point. I feel like in my life, I am not quite there yet and I want to get to be that type of person.
I have never told my father this and how much I respect him as a person, but I do know that if I can become the exact type of person that he is, my life will be way better.
the happiness of youth
As I get older, I see more and more people getting angry towards younger people for being annoying or I see people complaining about kids. When I say kids, I am referring to anyone under the age of 18.
I see groups of kids hanging out, out front of a store, or I see kids playing catch in the street, or tons of kids hanging out in front of the movie theater etc.. So many people just look at them and complain and call cops or call security, or complain to a store owner, or yell at the kids them selves. Why all the anger and why all the yelling? These kids are doing no harm at all, they are just enjoying their lives.
It is like everyone forgot how life is when you are a kid.
I think back to all the times I was with my friends, we were never looking for trouble, we were not out to bother older people, we were just out to enjoy our lives. If I go to a movie theater, and I see tons of kids outside hanging out, I do not give them dirty looks, I don't complain about them to who ever I am with, I don't call security, I look at all of them and I just smile. I smile, because I remember how much fun that was and how happy it was. I also remember how little attention we paid to anyone else that wasn't one of us. When you are that age that you are hanging out in front of a movie theater, you are doing it because what else is there really to do. In your eyes( at age 15ish), you are thinking that this is the best time of your life.
When I go into a 7-11 or another store like that during the day, and there is a huge group of kids outside, I think the same thing. I remember after school hanging out in front of a store or a place like that. Again, when you are that age, a. what else is there to do b. what harm are you causing? When I see that, I look at them and that also makes me happy, because it reminds me how innocent and fun it used to be when we were younger.
This can be looked at on a grown-up level also. There are a group of people now who are fighting to make fines higher for drunk in public and step up arrests in the Federal Hill area. All of these people are way older, and I have to assume at some point in time they were doing the same thing. They are causing all of this because each weekend, there is a fight or an arrest etc.. The bottom line of that is, that is about 1% or less of the people. The other 99% of people are just out having fun, but older, bitter people just want to end all the fun.
The same thins is true for the people at the movie theater that call security or for store owners who put a sign on the door only allowing 2 students at a time in a store. Less then 1% of kids actually cause trouble, but people act like if there is a group of kids, that 100% of that group is out to cause trouble.
I just wish people would stop and think when they see younger people how they felt when they were that age, and how they acted when they were that age, and maybe that will change how they react. Under no circumstance do I want to go back to being a kid again, but I will never forget how happy I felt when I was that age and I will never look down on a group of kids just trying to enjoy life.
I see groups of kids hanging out, out front of a store, or I see kids playing catch in the street, or tons of kids hanging out in front of the movie theater etc.. So many people just look at them and complain and call cops or call security, or complain to a store owner, or yell at the kids them selves. Why all the anger and why all the yelling? These kids are doing no harm at all, they are just enjoying their lives.
It is like everyone forgot how life is when you are a kid.
I think back to all the times I was with my friends, we were never looking for trouble, we were not out to bother older people, we were just out to enjoy our lives. If I go to a movie theater, and I see tons of kids outside hanging out, I do not give them dirty looks, I don't complain about them to who ever I am with, I don't call security, I look at all of them and I just smile. I smile, because I remember how much fun that was and how happy it was. I also remember how little attention we paid to anyone else that wasn't one of us. When you are that age that you are hanging out in front of a movie theater, you are doing it because what else is there really to do. In your eyes( at age 15ish), you are thinking that this is the best time of your life.
When I go into a 7-11 or another store like that during the day, and there is a huge group of kids outside, I think the same thing. I remember after school hanging out in front of a store or a place like that. Again, when you are that age, a. what else is there to do b. what harm are you causing? When I see that, I look at them and that also makes me happy, because it reminds me how innocent and fun it used to be when we were younger.
This can be looked at on a grown-up level also. There are a group of people now who are fighting to make fines higher for drunk in public and step up arrests in the Federal Hill area. All of these people are way older, and I have to assume at some point in time they were doing the same thing. They are causing all of this because each weekend, there is a fight or an arrest etc.. The bottom line of that is, that is about 1% or less of the people. The other 99% of people are just out having fun, but older, bitter people just want to end all the fun.
The same thins is true for the people at the movie theater that call security or for store owners who put a sign on the door only allowing 2 students at a time in a store. Less then 1% of kids actually cause trouble, but people act like if there is a group of kids, that 100% of that group is out to cause trouble.
I just wish people would stop and think when they see younger people how they felt when they were that age, and how they acted when they were that age, and maybe that will change how they react. Under no circumstance do I want to go back to being a kid again, but I will never forget how happy I felt when I was that age and I will never look down on a group of kids just trying to enjoy life.
4/20
For some people today is a day to just get stoned and party. For me it is very different. Today is the day that my mother passed away. It is weird to think that certain days I miss her more then others, because I am always thinking about her, but days like today, mothers day, her birthday etc..I guess I do think about her more then normal.
I know at this point it was a while ago that it happened, but that doesn't help me get over it. It is one of those things that I will never be able to get over. I miss her a lot. It is not just one thing I miss, just overall I really do. Even after all of these years, when something happens, I still go to call her or I just sit and think, I wish I could tell my mom this, or my mom would love this etc..
Days like today are just harder for me then others :(
I know at this point it was a while ago that it happened, but that doesn't help me get over it. It is one of those things that I will never be able to get over. I miss her a lot. It is not just one thing I miss, just overall I really do. Even after all of these years, when something happens, I still go to call her or I just sit and think, I wish I could tell my mom this, or my mom would love this etc..
Days like today are just harder for me then others :(
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Why do I get judged so much
Is it all in my head? Do I imagine all of this? Am I over-analyzing all of it? Those questions run through my head all of the time. Then, everyone once in a while, something happens or someone says something to me, that makes me think that it is not all in my head, and people really are taking time out of their life to judge me and judge the way I live.
People think they know me beacuse maybe they hear a story about me or they see something online about me, or they saw me out, or they hear something from a friend etc.. At the end of the day, only the people that are truly close to me really know me. Somehow( I will take some blame for it), there are perceptions out there about me that are just not true. Just because of where I live and who I hang out with and where and when I choose to hang out etc, people think they know all about me and they think they have the right to say things about me and judge me and think they know my life inside out.
I know I have low self-esteem and I know I think way more about it then I should, but when I hear stories like I did the other day or when people say things to me like they did last night, it really makes it stand out how crazy it is what people think about me and how people truly see me.
If any of these people actually took the time to know me and hang out with me, they would get to know the real me and see me for who I truly am, and not just judge me based on something they heard or something they think they know.
People think they know me beacuse maybe they hear a story about me or they see something online about me, or they saw me out, or they hear something from a friend etc.. At the end of the day, only the people that are truly close to me really know me. Somehow( I will take some blame for it), there are perceptions out there about me that are just not true. Just because of where I live and who I hang out with and where and when I choose to hang out etc, people think they know all about me and they think they have the right to say things about me and judge me and think they know my life inside out.
I know I have low self-esteem and I know I think way more about it then I should, but when I hear stories like I did the other day or when people say things to me like they did last night, it really makes it stand out how crazy it is what people think about me and how people truly see me.
If any of these people actually took the time to know me and hang out with me, they would get to know the real me and see me for who I truly am, and not just judge me based on something they heard or something they think they know.
Monday, April 12, 2010
moving out
I am finally moving out of my apartment in Federal Hill. I am staying downtown, but this is such a huge move for me. It gets me away from all the bars, it makes it so I am living by myself( which makes me so happy just to be able to have my own life), and it it way cheaper then I am paying now.
I did loving right in the middle of Fed hill, and I have had my fun, but I am past that point in my life of living right in the middle of it all, and this is step one of getting my life exactly on the track that I want it to be on.
I am so excited to finally move out and to be able to live by myself!!!!!
I did loving right in the middle of Fed hill, and I have had my fun, but I am past that point in my life of living right in the middle of it all, and this is step one of getting my life exactly on the track that I want it to be on.
I am so excited to finally move out and to be able to live by myself!!!!!
Monday, April 5, 2010
having girlfriends that are you just friends
This is a tough subject for me, because I do have so many friends that are girls, but they are also just friends. I know this is so tough and difficult for the girls I date to sometimes grasp, but over time they realize they are just friends. Where I have gotten in trouble for this before is because if I am with the girl I am dating, and we see a group of my girlfriends, I talk to them and hug them etc, and sometimes do not pay all my attention to the girl I am dating.
This is so wrong and so stupid of me, and I am done that now, but I think back to the way I used to act, and I just get so mad at myself. If you are dating a girl and you like her, you shouldn't need to flirt with other girls, you shouldn't need to just hang out with a group of girls. The girl you like and the girl you are dating should be the only girl you want to be around. If everyone is going out as a group, that is fine, but when you start hanging out with just one or two of your girlfriends, I can see how that not only comes across very weird to the girl you are dating, but also it is rude. I just feel bad for a lot of the way I have acted over the years.
On that note, I have a bunch of friends who would never have a girl's number in their phone unless they were planning on hooking up with them. These guys have zero girl friends, and they would never have any interest of hanging out with a girl unless it was to date/hook up with them. When I look at them and I compare them to me, I would much rather have what I have. Some of my girl friends are some of my best friends, and that will never change.
What will change is I will never choose a girl friend of mine over a girl I am dating. I will never make plans just to hang out with one of my girlfriends, when the only girl I want to be with is the girl i am dating.
This is so wrong and so stupid of me, and I am done that now, but I think back to the way I used to act, and I just get so mad at myself. If you are dating a girl and you like her, you shouldn't need to flirt with other girls, you shouldn't need to just hang out with a group of girls. The girl you like and the girl you are dating should be the only girl you want to be around. If everyone is going out as a group, that is fine, but when you start hanging out with just one or two of your girlfriends, I can see how that not only comes across very weird to the girl you are dating, but also it is rude. I just feel bad for a lot of the way I have acted over the years.
On that note, I have a bunch of friends who would never have a girl's number in their phone unless they were planning on hooking up with them. These guys have zero girl friends, and they would never have any interest of hanging out with a girl unless it was to date/hook up with them. When I look at them and I compare them to me, I would much rather have what I have. Some of my girl friends are some of my best friends, and that will never change.
What will change is I will never choose a girl friend of mine over a girl I am dating. I will never make plans just to hang out with one of my girlfriends, when the only girl I want to be with is the girl i am dating.
more money owed by friends
Here is the thing about this, when friends owe me money it puts me in a very tough situation. I will never let money come between me and one of my friends, but in a case like this, things keep coming up that hurt and for lack of a better term, throw it in my face and make me feel like he doesn't care at all that he owes me money.
He has owed me this money for going on 2 years now, and at one point it got up to 1300. He did me some favors and I felt bad for him, so about 7 months ago, I dropped it to 500 with the promise that he was going to pay me within a month. Well, here we are 7 months later and no money given to me.
here is the part that really upsets me. I see him out all the time. He tells me he has zero money, yet I see him out or I am always hearing stories or seeing emails about this great dinner he went to or these awesome trips he goes on and all this fun stuff he does, bar tabs, nights out, dinners etc... At the end of the day he is just blowing me off 10000% and making it seem like paying me back is the last thing on his mind. It is just crappy to have a friend doing that to me.
He has owed me this money for going on 2 years now, and at one point it got up to 1300. He did me some favors and I felt bad for him, so about 7 months ago, I dropped it to 500 with the promise that he was going to pay me within a month. Well, here we are 7 months later and no money given to me.
here is the part that really upsets me. I see him out all the time. He tells me he has zero money, yet I see him out or I am always hearing stories or seeing emails about this great dinner he went to or these awesome trips he goes on and all this fun stuff he does, bar tabs, nights out, dinners etc... At the end of the day he is just blowing me off 10000% and making it seem like paying me back is the last thing on his mind. It is just crappy to have a friend doing that to me.
Thursday, April 1, 2010
april 1 starts a huge month
This is a huge month for me. I am going to find a new place to live and move out, I am going to buy a new car, and I am working very hard to get my side business up and running. Hopefully I will not let myself down and I will be able to get all of this done.
Monday, March 22, 2010
Matchmaking club in Baltimore
This was an email I sent out to most of the people I know for the idea I am working on. It is still a work in progress, and I have already gotten some great feedback on it, and I am taking every comment and trying to make sure I address it and make this work.
Before you read this, I will tell you that this email is pretty long, but I would appreciate any feedback or ideas etc. that you could provide for me. This is something I have been thinking about doing for a while and I have been doing the research and getting everything together on the back end( legal stuff, privacy issues, web page, etc.) and that is almost done, so now it is moving to the stage of just getting it up and running. Again, I am sorry for the length of the email, but I would like any ideas or suggestions about pros and cons about any of the things listed below. The business I am starting is in essence a matchmaking dating service. Imagine if you take parts of internet dating, meeting people out, and millionaire matchmaker (yes, I watch that show, save the making fun of me for another time) and altering them and combining them into something that the average person can do and it will actually work.( I will go into the cons of the other things below). This will be a way to match people up for what they exactly are looking for, with real information and real wants and not just fake stuff that is either said when drunk at a bar or fake stuff typed into a web page.
This idea has been on my mind for a while and between getting ideas from the show, and talking to all of my friends and a couple other influences, I have decided that this is a great idea and it could do very well in Baltimore. I know there are going to be hurdles and roadblocks to getting this up and running, but I can handle most of them outside of the people( the logistical stuff), but below are what I see being some roadblocks/oppositions coming from the people directly( and they are going to be all of my clients). Also, below I will explain a little bit about how it is going to work with price and set up, but again just know this is still a work in progress. My business plan for this is way more descriptive and way more detailed, but I will not get into all of that with you guys.
I just want you to think for a second, even if you are in a relationship, about how many times you have asked someone you know to set you up with someone or if they know anyone or you have been asked that? How many times have you dated someone or your friend is dating someone that, you can tell the connection isn’t really there, but they are still dating just to either have someone to date or because they just wanted to settle, and you can just tell they are not good together.? This last one is something I think that is so huge, and so many people I know do this, and it kills me, because I know if people just took the time, it could be so different. How many times do you know someone that would be perfect for someone else, because you know both of them, and yet one of the people may know that person or have heard something about that person etc., and because of that, they are very hesitant. That is one of the worst things. A lot of this that is putting this in motion is 5 separate conversations I had this weekend with people either asking me to set them up with someone or if I knew someone for them (3 girls, 1 guy) and then someone else complaining to me how they had been dating someone for about 2 months, and it was just ok, but they couldn’t be themselves, and it was fun to date them, but they just wanted someone they could be themselves with. I think one of the worst things I see, is people dating and hooking up just to do it, and there is really no connection or true liking each other going on. If you are still reading this email, I thank you.
The overall premise of this is to have a club for lack of a better term. In this will be guys and girls that both pay a fee (still working on if it is going to be monthly or annually etc, and how much exactly. I feel $20 is too low per month, but $50 is too high, so I am working on some things). In that club, they would sit down (interview style, and I will get into why this is better then just going out to a bar and online dating later), and go over in detail who they are, what they are looking for exactly and the problems they have had with previous people they have dated and good things they have had in previous relationships etc. It would be a full interview, and it will get us a chance to match you up with someone you are truly you are looking for and someone you can truly enjoy your time with.
Once that is done, all of their information is saved and they are now in the club. This club will always be looking to set people up, it may be a set of 2 to 3 mini blind dates, and then whichever you have the best connection with you go on a real date, or a mixer. There are plenty of ideas I have, but it depends on what the two people are all about and what they like to do etc. It will be something that once you start dating someone, then for now you are out and will not be set up on any more dates or tried to be matched with someone, but you are always welcome to come back in. I know this all sounds vague, but this is an ever-growing group, and there will always be people that I (and my team) will work on to make sure it is a good match for you. This is a great way to not only get to meet people and go on dates with someone, but you know that the person you are going out with is someone that is similar to you in what they like and what they are looking for, and you know that there is at least some connection. There are about 4 more pages in my business plan about the specifics of all of this, but I think the point is pretty obvious now. Any other specific questions, please ask me.
On the other end, I can think of 3 HUGE problems that will come from this. These are a combination of problems/roadblocks that I know people will put up.( Also, I have a lawyer helping with some of the legalities of this, but if any of you know a lawyer or are a lawyer and want to help, let me know.) I will list what I see the biggest objections being below and I would like some feed back on what you think about them. I think they are going to be the attitude that people will have about it and the fact that internet dating is becoming more and more popular. I also know that other issues will come up, and until people meet and actually start dating and our happy, it will be harder to get people to join, but I know this is a good idea and this is going to happen.
When I say the attitude that people will have, that is encompassing so many things. There will be so many objections that people will come up with, and I think these are my biggest obstacle, and this is what I have to get past and overcome to make this work. The first is the stubbornness and cockiness of people that would think they would never do this. I figure this will come from mainly the men, but again, this will only work if I have men and women both doing it. There are so many people that will think, why would I do this, I can just go out to a bar and meet someone, or I would never pay for anything like this, I have no problem meeting some one. I can see that point, and even the most social, outgoing people still could benefit for this. I look at it this way, if you only just want to go to a bar to meet someone and just want to get numbers and hook up and maybe go on a date or two, that is fine. But, if you are looking for someone to date and someone that you can actually be with, being able to get someone’s number a bar doesn’t do anything. If that is the case, everyone would just to go a bar after midnight any night of the week, find the single people in there and get all the numbers. That is easy to do, but most people do not want that. They want to meet someone that they get along with and can be themselves with and can just enjoy being around. I think this is a way to counter that since this will be people that are matched up based on things you like and have in common etc. I talk to so many people that are dating someone they met somewhere, and even after a month or two, they are still saying they cant be themselves and they are not really happy. The point of this club is to stop that from happening.
Another thing about the attitude (and I think this is a bigger one) is the embarrassment factor of it. This is tough for me to truly grasp, because I do not get embarrassed about much and I am a very open person, but I know there are plenty of people that would be embarrassed. I know so many people that use online dating, yet they would never admit it to anyone and when they talk about they whisper about it, like it is the worst thing in the world. I think for the people getting embarrassed about this or something like online dating, they are viewing it all wrong. What is so wrong with doing this? What you are doing is being pro-active and trying to find someone that you could actually date and have things in common with and will enjoy being with. People go out and spend tons of money at bars and meet people wasted and that rarely works. Those same people along with so many others, sit around and may like someone or may want to ask someone out, but they never do. I can understand being embarrassed about it, if you feel like it is a way of admitting some sort of failure or that you can’t meet someone, and that could not be more opposite of what it is. Doing something like this is just another way to meet people. If you are always going to the same places, or meeting the same people, this is a way to branch out and meet people that you would never have had the change to meet in the first place.
Another thing about the attitude of all of this it, is that it is Baltimore, and there is a chance that you will know people in the club and you may even end up on a date with someone that you know or that you have heard of etc.. That should not even be a concern. It is amazing to me, how people ask me to set them up or if I know anyone, and they say, “ oh, I know them or I have heard of them, I would never date them” They say that maybe based one time meeting them or one time seeing them or some story they have heard, and they may not even know if that is true or not. It is amazing, I have a guy I know that would be perfect for one of my girlfriends. They truly have almost every single thing in common, and I know they are both looking for similar things, but because they have met before, the girl is refusing to go out with him. I just do not get that, if this matchmaking matches you up, just give it a shot. There is nothing wrong with it, and you have no idea of knowing what you are truly missing out there.
Obviously the other big concern/obstacle/competition is online dating. I am not going to get into how I feel about online dating( you can see my blog for that), but this would pretty much take all the negatives about online dating and remove them, and still leave the positives for it. Here are the biggest issues/problems with online dating. The things that people list on their profile are almost never true and honest and they are normally just what they think people want to hear. The pictures that are on there are either just old or not reflective at all about what they really look like. There are tons and tons of creepy people out there. You have no idea if the person you are talking to wants to just hook up, if they want to date, if they want to date twice and then get married, etc.. So many people are just so fake and not true on there and lie about so much, that it normally ends up not working. I know so many people that have gone on dates and met people etc. from there, and it may be fun at first, but it normally ends up not working. People pay so much money for all of this, and it is just so fake most of the time.
With what I am doing, every person in the club will have been met by my team, interviewed, and truly asked about what they really want and what they are really looking for, etc. If someone wants to be able to date someone that they can sit around and just be goofy and silly with and not go out and play games with etc., that will be known. If someone is looking for a super serious relationship that will be known. It will be way more open, and obviously people that are just creepy or are just out just to hook up will not be allowed.
Another huge problem, is how many people could I actually get to do this. I know at the beginning it will be small, but over time it will be grow. I know this is a good idea and I know that people would def. be interested, but it is a matter of them actually doing it.
I know more objections and problems will come up along the way, but I also know that all of the positive things that can come out of this are endless. If you have read this whole email, I thank you. If you have any suggestions or ideas or criticism and other reasons you think this will not work, please let me know. Also, if you know anyone else that you think would have ideas on this, or could help with this or would be interested in this, please let me know.
Before you read this, I will tell you that this email is pretty long, but I would appreciate any feedback or ideas etc. that you could provide for me. This is something I have been thinking about doing for a while and I have been doing the research and getting everything together on the back end( legal stuff, privacy issues, web page, etc.) and that is almost done, so now it is moving to the stage of just getting it up and running. Again, I am sorry for the length of the email, but I would like any ideas or suggestions about pros and cons about any of the things listed below. The business I am starting is in essence a matchmaking dating service. Imagine if you take parts of internet dating, meeting people out, and millionaire matchmaker (yes, I watch that show, save the making fun of me for another time) and altering them and combining them into something that the average person can do and it will actually work.( I will go into the cons of the other things below). This will be a way to match people up for what they exactly are looking for, with real information and real wants and not just fake stuff that is either said when drunk at a bar or fake stuff typed into a web page.
This idea has been on my mind for a while and between getting ideas from the show, and talking to all of my friends and a couple other influences, I have decided that this is a great idea and it could do very well in Baltimore. I know there are going to be hurdles and roadblocks to getting this up and running, but I can handle most of them outside of the people( the logistical stuff), but below are what I see being some roadblocks/oppositions coming from the people directly( and they are going to be all of my clients). Also, below I will explain a little bit about how it is going to work with price and set up, but again just know this is still a work in progress. My business plan for this is way more descriptive and way more detailed, but I will not get into all of that with you guys.
I just want you to think for a second, even if you are in a relationship, about how many times you have asked someone you know to set you up with someone or if they know anyone or you have been asked that? How many times have you dated someone or your friend is dating someone that, you can tell the connection isn’t really there, but they are still dating just to either have someone to date or because they just wanted to settle, and you can just tell they are not good together.? This last one is something I think that is so huge, and so many people I know do this, and it kills me, because I know if people just took the time, it could be so different. How many times do you know someone that would be perfect for someone else, because you know both of them, and yet one of the people may know that person or have heard something about that person etc., and because of that, they are very hesitant. That is one of the worst things. A lot of this that is putting this in motion is 5 separate conversations I had this weekend with people either asking me to set them up with someone or if I knew someone for them (3 girls, 1 guy) and then someone else complaining to me how they had been dating someone for about 2 months, and it was just ok, but they couldn’t be themselves, and it was fun to date them, but they just wanted someone they could be themselves with. I think one of the worst things I see, is people dating and hooking up just to do it, and there is really no connection or true liking each other going on. If you are still reading this email, I thank you.
The overall premise of this is to have a club for lack of a better term. In this will be guys and girls that both pay a fee (still working on if it is going to be monthly or annually etc, and how much exactly. I feel $20 is too low per month, but $50 is too high, so I am working on some things). In that club, they would sit down (interview style, and I will get into why this is better then just going out to a bar and online dating later), and go over in detail who they are, what they are looking for exactly and the problems they have had with previous people they have dated and good things they have had in previous relationships etc. It would be a full interview, and it will get us a chance to match you up with someone you are truly you are looking for and someone you can truly enjoy your time with.
Once that is done, all of their information is saved and they are now in the club. This club will always be looking to set people up, it may be a set of 2 to 3 mini blind dates, and then whichever you have the best connection with you go on a real date, or a mixer. There are plenty of ideas I have, but it depends on what the two people are all about and what they like to do etc. It will be something that once you start dating someone, then for now you are out and will not be set up on any more dates or tried to be matched with someone, but you are always welcome to come back in. I know this all sounds vague, but this is an ever-growing group, and there will always be people that I (and my team) will work on to make sure it is a good match for you. This is a great way to not only get to meet people and go on dates with someone, but you know that the person you are going out with is someone that is similar to you in what they like and what they are looking for, and you know that there is at least some connection. There are about 4 more pages in my business plan about the specifics of all of this, but I think the point is pretty obvious now. Any other specific questions, please ask me.
On the other end, I can think of 3 HUGE problems that will come from this. These are a combination of problems/roadblocks that I know people will put up.( Also, I have a lawyer helping with some of the legalities of this, but if any of you know a lawyer or are a lawyer and want to help, let me know.) I will list what I see the biggest objections being below and I would like some feed back on what you think about them. I think they are going to be the attitude that people will have about it and the fact that internet dating is becoming more and more popular. I also know that other issues will come up, and until people meet and actually start dating and our happy, it will be harder to get people to join, but I know this is a good idea and this is going to happen.
When I say the attitude that people will have, that is encompassing so many things. There will be so many objections that people will come up with, and I think these are my biggest obstacle, and this is what I have to get past and overcome to make this work. The first is the stubbornness and cockiness of people that would think they would never do this. I figure this will come from mainly the men, but again, this will only work if I have men and women both doing it. There are so many people that will think, why would I do this, I can just go out to a bar and meet someone, or I would never pay for anything like this, I have no problem meeting some one. I can see that point, and even the most social, outgoing people still could benefit for this. I look at it this way, if you only just want to go to a bar to meet someone and just want to get numbers and hook up and maybe go on a date or two, that is fine. But, if you are looking for someone to date and someone that you can actually be with, being able to get someone’s number a bar doesn’t do anything. If that is the case, everyone would just to go a bar after midnight any night of the week, find the single people in there and get all the numbers. That is easy to do, but most people do not want that. They want to meet someone that they get along with and can be themselves with and can just enjoy being around. I think this is a way to counter that since this will be people that are matched up based on things you like and have in common etc. I talk to so many people that are dating someone they met somewhere, and even after a month or two, they are still saying they cant be themselves and they are not really happy. The point of this club is to stop that from happening.
Another thing about the attitude (and I think this is a bigger one) is the embarrassment factor of it. This is tough for me to truly grasp, because I do not get embarrassed about much and I am a very open person, but I know there are plenty of people that would be embarrassed. I know so many people that use online dating, yet they would never admit it to anyone and when they talk about they whisper about it, like it is the worst thing in the world. I think for the people getting embarrassed about this or something like online dating, they are viewing it all wrong. What is so wrong with doing this? What you are doing is being pro-active and trying to find someone that you could actually date and have things in common with and will enjoy being with. People go out and spend tons of money at bars and meet people wasted and that rarely works. Those same people along with so many others, sit around and may like someone or may want to ask someone out, but they never do. I can understand being embarrassed about it, if you feel like it is a way of admitting some sort of failure or that you can’t meet someone, and that could not be more opposite of what it is. Doing something like this is just another way to meet people. If you are always going to the same places, or meeting the same people, this is a way to branch out and meet people that you would never have had the change to meet in the first place.
Another thing about the attitude of all of this it, is that it is Baltimore, and there is a chance that you will know people in the club and you may even end up on a date with someone that you know or that you have heard of etc.. That should not even be a concern. It is amazing to me, how people ask me to set them up or if I know anyone, and they say, “ oh, I know them or I have heard of them, I would never date them” They say that maybe based one time meeting them or one time seeing them or some story they have heard, and they may not even know if that is true or not. It is amazing, I have a guy I know that would be perfect for one of my girlfriends. They truly have almost every single thing in common, and I know they are both looking for similar things, but because they have met before, the girl is refusing to go out with him. I just do not get that, if this matchmaking matches you up, just give it a shot. There is nothing wrong with it, and you have no idea of knowing what you are truly missing out there.
Obviously the other big concern/obstacle/competition is online dating. I am not going to get into how I feel about online dating( you can see my blog for that), but this would pretty much take all the negatives about online dating and remove them, and still leave the positives for it. Here are the biggest issues/problems with online dating. The things that people list on their profile are almost never true and honest and they are normally just what they think people want to hear. The pictures that are on there are either just old or not reflective at all about what they really look like. There are tons and tons of creepy people out there. You have no idea if the person you are talking to wants to just hook up, if they want to date, if they want to date twice and then get married, etc.. So many people are just so fake and not true on there and lie about so much, that it normally ends up not working. I know so many people that have gone on dates and met people etc. from there, and it may be fun at first, but it normally ends up not working. People pay so much money for all of this, and it is just so fake most of the time.
With what I am doing, every person in the club will have been met by my team, interviewed, and truly asked about what they really want and what they are really looking for, etc. If someone wants to be able to date someone that they can sit around and just be goofy and silly with and not go out and play games with etc., that will be known. If someone is looking for a super serious relationship that will be known. It will be way more open, and obviously people that are just creepy or are just out just to hook up will not be allowed.
Another huge problem, is how many people could I actually get to do this. I know at the beginning it will be small, but over time it will be grow. I know this is a good idea and I know that people would def. be interested, but it is a matter of them actually doing it.
I know more objections and problems will come up along the way, but I also know that all of the positive things that can come out of this are endless. If you have read this whole email, I thank you. If you have any suggestions or ideas or criticism and other reasons you think this will not work, please let me know. Also, if you know anyone else that you think would have ideas on this, or could help with this or would be interested in this, please let me know.
Monday, March 8, 2010
Why can't we be friends
I am not sure if it because of the age that we all are or if that a lot of this happens in a social scene, but is seems harder and harder to talk to someone or meet someone etc. and have it just be as a friend. Someone like me, I am very social, very outgoing, and I like to have fun and enjoy life. I have a lot of friends, and a good % of them are girls.
If we are all out or I am out somewhere, and I see one of my friends and get introduced to one of their friends, and we start talking, that doesn't mean I like her, that doesn't mean I want to date her etc.. If me and one of my friends are talking and we plan to go out and get some food or just hang out, that doesn't mean that we are going to date, it doesn't mean we like each other, we could both be dating someone for that matter. The point is that guys and girls can be friends and hang out and talk and it can just be in a friendly way. It seems like to me, that if a guy and a girl talk more then twice, either the guy or the girl automatically assumes that the other one wants them, and that is not always the case. Also, if 2 people are dating and one of them talks to another guy or girl and maybe makes plans to hang out with them, it is automatically assumed that the person wants to flirt etc..
The flip side of all of this, is how would I feel if the girl I was dating had a ton of guy friends, and she was hanging out with them, or if I saw online that she had been talking to one of them etc...If I was dating someone, I would have trust in them. If she was up front and told me that she had a guy friend she was going to hang out with, I would be totally cool with that. IF she hid it from me, that would be another story. The point is that we are all grown ups now, and we should be able to have friends of both sexes and be able to hang out with them without any sexual innuendos being there. I have dated girls that have had guy friends, and over time I have met them, and I am totally fine with her having her life and her friends etc, bc I trust her.
A huge reason for all of this is the internet. Between Facebook and Myspace and all of that, one comment written can be taken the wrong way and it all gets blown up. Just because a guy and a girl may write on each other walls or plan to hang out, or share a joke etc.. that doesn't mean anything. It means they are friends, and more then likely just bored at work or bored at home and are playing online. People read way to much into these web pages, and it gets annoying. Just because 2 people may talk online, doesn't mean that they are going to start dating or whatever. Just because a girl may write on my page, that doesn't mean she wants me, and vice versa.
Somehow over the years, it seems like being able to just be friends with someone and hang out with them as friends has faded away and now people always think that there is an alterier motive, when 99% of the time, there is not.
If we are all out or I am out somewhere, and I see one of my friends and get introduced to one of their friends, and we start talking, that doesn't mean I like her, that doesn't mean I want to date her etc.. If me and one of my friends are talking and we plan to go out and get some food or just hang out, that doesn't mean that we are going to date, it doesn't mean we like each other, we could both be dating someone for that matter. The point is that guys and girls can be friends and hang out and talk and it can just be in a friendly way. It seems like to me, that if a guy and a girl talk more then twice, either the guy or the girl automatically assumes that the other one wants them, and that is not always the case. Also, if 2 people are dating and one of them talks to another guy or girl and maybe makes plans to hang out with them, it is automatically assumed that the person wants to flirt etc..
The flip side of all of this, is how would I feel if the girl I was dating had a ton of guy friends, and she was hanging out with them, or if I saw online that she had been talking to one of them etc...If I was dating someone, I would have trust in them. If she was up front and told me that she had a guy friend she was going to hang out with, I would be totally cool with that. IF she hid it from me, that would be another story. The point is that we are all grown ups now, and we should be able to have friends of both sexes and be able to hang out with them without any sexual innuendos being there. I have dated girls that have had guy friends, and over time I have met them, and I am totally fine with her having her life and her friends etc, bc I trust her.
A huge reason for all of this is the internet. Between Facebook and Myspace and all of that, one comment written can be taken the wrong way and it all gets blown up. Just because a guy and a girl may write on each other walls or plan to hang out, or share a joke etc.. that doesn't mean anything. It means they are friends, and more then likely just bored at work or bored at home and are playing online. People read way to much into these web pages, and it gets annoying. Just because 2 people may talk online, doesn't mean that they are going to start dating or whatever. Just because a girl may write on my page, that doesn't mean she wants me, and vice versa.
Somehow over the years, it seems like being able to just be friends with someone and hang out with them as friends has faded away and now people always think that there is an alterier motive, when 99% of the time, there is not.
Internet Dating
This is a very unique and touchy subject to certain people. When my gf first moved out of my house, I got online to try to meet new people. I guess I am sort of different then the typical person that goes online. I am very social and very outgoing and I never have a hard time meeting people and talking to people, getting numbers etc.. Then you start to realize that over time,you get sick of meeting the same people and same type of people in bars. You want to expand and try to meet people that you would never have met before. When you meet someone in a bar, you don't really get to know them, you just meet them in the dark while drunk etc.. Online dating is a great way to meet people that you would never meet if you didn't. I have no idea why people look down on it and/or view it in a negative way. When I hear people talk about it, it is in a whisper and they are afraid of being judged or something like that.
Every single person I know that has been or is currently using online dating is a great person, they are just really sick of meeting people in the same areas at the same places, and want to try something different. I have no idea what it is looked at in such a negative way. My guy friends that view it in a negative way, sort of view it as, it is so easy to go down the street and meet a girl at a bar, why do you have to go online? My answer to them was, yes it is pretty easy, but at the end of the day you want more then that, and you do not just want to meet girls at bars every night. If you are just looking for a quick hook up then that is fine, but overall meeting people at bars all the time just gets old.
In my experience, I met some pretty awesome girls, and I also met/talked to some truly crazy ones. I have a lot of friends that use online dating( 98% of them are girls) and we talk about it a lot, and one thing that always bothered me was that everyone writes the same sort of thing on their profile, they use pictures that could be from years ago etc.. My girlfriends that are online are always asking me, what type of stuff does a guy look for and what type of stuff does a guy want to see. I have no answer for them, because, in actuality all guys are different. Some are just looking to hook up, some are looking to date, some are looking just to meet people etc..
The point of all of this, is that I stopped it, but I do not regret it. I was thinking the other night that if I ever got back on, I would not be generic and have what every other single person ( guy and girl ) has on their profile, and I would be 100% honest about what I want and what I am looking for. The truth of the matter is that that 95% of the things that you read about profile are just put in there because that is what they think other people will want to read, and that totally defeats the purpose of going online to try to meet new people.
This is what I would put as my profile if I were ever to use online dating again, and in reality, this is the trust and this is what I am looking for in the girls I date...
I could sit here and write a profile about what type of person I am like and my interests, but as I have gathered from almost every profile on this web page( both guys and girls), they all mostly say the same thing and then once you meet the person, most of it seems to be a lie or at least heavily exaggerated.
Here is a little about me and a little bit of what I am looking for. I am sorry if this comes across blunt or rude, but I am a very open guy and if people are going to be actually read this, I want them to get a glimpse of the real me.
I am a very nice and friendly guy. I like to have fun. I enjoy my life, and every day I wake up I am happy or excited about something else, and sometimes just happy bc I have no idea where that day is going to take me( besides work etc.) I really can enjoy anything and at this point in my life I do. I like to go out and have a good time with my friends, I like to stay at home and watch tv( I am too embarrassed up front to tell you all of the cheesy, awful shows I watch ), I like to go on vacations, I like to take my dog anywhere outside. These are all things I like to, when I am dating someone, I would also like to be able to these things with them. When I am dating someone, I do not want to be out with my friends, I don’t want to be doing some of things I am doing now. I have a lot of friends, and I am very social. I do not have a problem meeting girls, but after living in federal hill for 3 years now( moving out shortly), I have met so many great people but also so many people whose only intention is to just party and get wasted and that is not what I am looking for in a girl. If you must know some things about me, I have a beagle who I love, I have a great group of friends, both guys and girls, that I love, I will always choose white wine over red, ravens over anyone, hokies over any college. I love all types of music and I am really open to trying anything at least once to see if I like it.
This leads me to what I am looking for in a women and in a girlfriend. This may sound random and all over the place, but I am just being open and honest. Obviously looks are important and so is sexual attraction, but that is far from everything. If you are going to base if you want to date someone off of a random picture online, you are just being very rude. I have friends that are on Match and I have gone out with people on here, and I can say that most people look different then the Match photos they choose to share. Obviously sexual attraction is important, but that is not something that is going to be discovered after 2 dates. What will be discovered is how you act around each other and can you make each other smile, and do you think about them when you are not with them. I want someone who has their own group of friends, I want someone that can go out and hang out with me and my friends and at the same time wouldn’t mind me being with her friends. At the same time, I want to be able to just stay in with her and be with her and not worry about what everyone else is doing. I want someone that I can work out with if we want, we can make dinner together, we could be lazy and order delivery, or we could go out and do something out of the house. The bottom line is I want the person I date to be someone that no matter what I am doing I want to be around her and I want to be thinking of her. I want to know that no matter what happens during the day, good or bad, no matter how small of a deal it is, that she is the first person I would call to tell about it and that she would want to hear about it and vice versa. That doesn’t mean we spend every second together, it means that what ever I make plans to do or vice versa, we want the other one there, unless it is something that is just meant for guys or for girls. At the end of the day, I want the person I am with to not only be my girlfriend but also my best friend.
Every single person I know that has been or is currently using online dating is a great person, they are just really sick of meeting people in the same areas at the same places, and want to try something different. I have no idea what it is looked at in such a negative way. My guy friends that view it in a negative way, sort of view it as, it is so easy to go down the street and meet a girl at a bar, why do you have to go online? My answer to them was, yes it is pretty easy, but at the end of the day you want more then that, and you do not just want to meet girls at bars every night. If you are just looking for a quick hook up then that is fine, but overall meeting people at bars all the time just gets old.
In my experience, I met some pretty awesome girls, and I also met/talked to some truly crazy ones. I have a lot of friends that use online dating( 98% of them are girls) and we talk about it a lot, and one thing that always bothered me was that everyone writes the same sort of thing on their profile, they use pictures that could be from years ago etc.. My girlfriends that are online are always asking me, what type of stuff does a guy look for and what type of stuff does a guy want to see. I have no answer for them, because, in actuality all guys are different. Some are just looking to hook up, some are looking to date, some are looking just to meet people etc..
The point of all of this, is that I stopped it, but I do not regret it. I was thinking the other night that if I ever got back on, I would not be generic and have what every other single person ( guy and girl ) has on their profile, and I would be 100% honest about what I want and what I am looking for. The truth of the matter is that that 95% of the things that you read about profile are just put in there because that is what they think other people will want to read, and that totally defeats the purpose of going online to try to meet new people.
This is what I would put as my profile if I were ever to use online dating again, and in reality, this is the trust and this is what I am looking for in the girls I date...
I could sit here and write a profile about what type of person I am like and my interests, but as I have gathered from almost every profile on this web page( both guys and girls), they all mostly say the same thing and then once you meet the person, most of it seems to be a lie or at least heavily exaggerated.
Here is a little about me and a little bit of what I am looking for. I am sorry if this comes across blunt or rude, but I am a very open guy and if people are going to be actually read this, I want them to get a glimpse of the real me.
I am a very nice and friendly guy. I like to have fun. I enjoy my life, and every day I wake up I am happy or excited about something else, and sometimes just happy bc I have no idea where that day is going to take me( besides work etc.) I really can enjoy anything and at this point in my life I do. I like to go out and have a good time with my friends, I like to stay at home and watch tv( I am too embarrassed up front to tell you all of the cheesy, awful shows I watch ), I like to go on vacations, I like to take my dog anywhere outside. These are all things I like to, when I am dating someone, I would also like to be able to these things with them. When I am dating someone, I do not want to be out with my friends, I don’t want to be doing some of things I am doing now. I have a lot of friends, and I am very social. I do not have a problem meeting girls, but after living in federal hill for 3 years now( moving out shortly), I have met so many great people but also so many people whose only intention is to just party and get wasted and that is not what I am looking for in a girl. If you must know some things about me, I have a beagle who I love, I have a great group of friends, both guys and girls, that I love, I will always choose white wine over red, ravens over anyone, hokies over any college. I love all types of music and I am really open to trying anything at least once to see if I like it.
This leads me to what I am looking for in a women and in a girlfriend. This may sound random and all over the place, but I am just being open and honest. Obviously looks are important and so is sexual attraction, but that is far from everything. If you are going to base if you want to date someone off of a random picture online, you are just being very rude. I have friends that are on Match and I have gone out with people on here, and I can say that most people look different then the Match photos they choose to share. Obviously sexual attraction is important, but that is not something that is going to be discovered after 2 dates. What will be discovered is how you act around each other and can you make each other smile, and do you think about them when you are not with them. I want someone who has their own group of friends, I want someone that can go out and hang out with me and my friends and at the same time wouldn’t mind me being with her friends. At the same time, I want to be able to just stay in with her and be with her and not worry about what everyone else is doing. I want someone that I can work out with if we want, we can make dinner together, we could be lazy and order delivery, or we could go out and do something out of the house. The bottom line is I want the person I date to be someone that no matter what I am doing I want to be around her and I want to be thinking of her. I want to know that no matter what happens during the day, good or bad, no matter how small of a deal it is, that she is the first person I would call to tell about it and that she would want to hear about it and vice versa. That doesn’t mean we spend every second together, it means that what ever I make plans to do or vice versa, we want the other one there, unless it is something that is just meant for guys or for girls. At the end of the day, I want the person I am with to not only be my girlfriend but also my best friend.
Thursday, February 25, 2010
marriage
People always say that divorce rates are so high and that marriage doesn't work etc.. I find that so depressing and just overall not true. Yes, some marriages are not going to work, but if I take a look at the people in my life who are in that position or very close and compare it to the people who have been divorced, is is not even close. I will just look at all the weddings I have been to (26), people I know that are currently engaged (5)( congrats btw to Erin, Matt, Mondo, Bill, Bridget), and other friends of mine that I know who are married whose wedding I didn't go to(14) That is 45 people that I know that got married or are engaged, and out of that, 5 of them are divorced.
I think the people that are bitter towards marriage or say bad things about it or always quote high numbers of divorce, are just jealous or angry or there is something going on with them, where they need to just say bad things about things and people.
I think the people that are bitter towards marriage or say bad things about it or always quote high numbers of divorce, are just jealous or angry or there is something going on with them, where they need to just say bad things about things and people.
Perception
They say that you learn something new every day. I don't know if I fully believe that, but I do know that you every day your thought on something or your perception about something/someone does change. 2 days ago, I was in the car of one of my friends. We saw the guy on president street that has no real arms and no real legs, and is always out there begging for money. The person I was with stopped her car, rolled down her window and almost emptied her wallet out for this guy.
At first, I was a little shocked at first, and the said, I wish I could have given him more!!!!
She said " what an awful deal he has gotten". It made me think 2 different things. Seeing someone like that really puts in perspective that no matter how bad or shitty you think your life is at that moment, there are always other people that have it just as bad or worse. I know that sounds like a morbid thing to say, but I don't mean it like that.
I mean it like, it puts it into perspective when you hear people complain about something or you are sitting around being depressed, you have to think that things could be worse, and people that have it worse find ways to make it work, so people need to stop complaining about stupid, little things, and realize how good you have it.
It also made me realize, that some of my friends are truly good people, and every day someone does something that reminds me of that.
At first, I was a little shocked at first, and the said, I wish I could have given him more!!!!
She said " what an awful deal he has gotten". It made me think 2 different things. Seeing someone like that really puts in perspective that no matter how bad or shitty you think your life is at that moment, there are always other people that have it just as bad or worse. I know that sounds like a morbid thing to say, but I don't mean it like that.
I mean it like, it puts it into perspective when you hear people complain about something or you are sitting around being depressed, you have to think that things could be worse, and people that have it worse find ways to make it work, so people need to stop complaining about stupid, little things, and realize how good you have it.
It also made me realize, that some of my friends are truly good people, and every day someone does something that reminds me of that.
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
The BAR exam
Today and tomorrow is the bar exam, and I am very curious how 2 specific people do on it. It just makes you think what money can do vs. not having the money.
The first person taking the test is a girl I know who is one of the smartest people I know and went to Law school and did great in law school and has studied very hard and done everything she can.
The other person is one of my guy friends, who was never good in law school, it took him a very long time to finish, he has never been good at studying etc., but he has spent thousands and thousands on pre-tests and study groups and done every single thing that money can buy to prepare for this test.
I am curious how being able to spend all that money for the practice tests and study groups will help compared to someone who couldn't do any of that and just had to study on her own at home.
The first person taking the test is a girl I know who is one of the smartest people I know and went to Law school and did great in law school and has studied very hard and done everything she can.
The other person is one of my guy friends, who was never good in law school, it took him a very long time to finish, he has never been good at studying etc., but he has spent thousands and thousands on pre-tests and study groups and done every single thing that money can buy to prepare for this test.
I am curious how being able to spend all that money for the practice tests and study groups will help compared to someone who couldn't do any of that and just had to study on her own at home.
Friend with Benefits
I recently got asked if I wanted to seriously date and be with someone I actually like, or do I just want a friend with benefits. I think a lot of people if they are single right now, think about this a lot. As soon as I was asked, my answer was very easy and simple.
I am done with friends with benefit stuff, and I am done just meeting a girl just to fuck around with her. Living where I live, and living the life I do, it is easy to meet girls, its easy to hook up, and I am just over that. It sounds weird when I say that to myself, bc what guy doesn't love to hook up, but it just loses so much when it is just a random hook up or someone you don't really like that much.
I have to start thinking about what I really want out of my life and what I really want out of a girl, and I have realized that I am done with the random hook up, and I want someone I can date and like and enjoy being around.
I am done with friends with benefit stuff, and I am done just meeting a girl just to fuck around with her. Living where I live, and living the life I do, it is easy to meet girls, its easy to hook up, and I am just over that. It sounds weird when I say that to myself, bc what guy doesn't love to hook up, but it just loses so much when it is just a random hook up or someone you don't really like that much.
I have to start thinking about what I really want out of my life and what I really want out of a girl, and I have realized that I am done with the random hook up, and I want someone I can date and like and enjoy being around.
Monday, February 1, 2010
moving on from true love
This is one of the hardest things I will ever have to do in my life. The true love of my life( after months of back and forth with us) has let me know in a very mean and rude way that she is 10000000% done with me and never wants to talk to me or see me again, and for that matter doesn't even care what happens in my life.
Now I am left to date and meet new girls. The thing is, I know there are girls that like me, girls that want to date me, etc..yet, I sit here wondering what do I really want, what type of girl do I want, do I even want a relationship, will I be thinking of my ex the whole time, should I try to get her back, should I just leave it alone, do I tell the next girl I date about her etc...
After my wife cheated on my and crushed me, I promised myself I would never let myself get hurt and crushed like that again. 3 year later, I open up my life and world to a new girl, and at the end of the day, the same thing happens( not the cheating per se, but the crushing of my heart). The difference is that I loved and cared way more this girl then I did for my wife. So here I am, heart-broken and crushed again by another girl I loved. How do I move on from here? How do I trust from here? How do I open up to another girl again? Will I ever find true love again? Do i just settle for something I know isnt true love?
Now I am left to date and meet new girls. The thing is, I know there are girls that like me, girls that want to date me, etc..yet, I sit here wondering what do I really want, what type of girl do I want, do I even want a relationship, will I be thinking of my ex the whole time, should I try to get her back, should I just leave it alone, do I tell the next girl I date about her etc...
After my wife cheated on my and crushed me, I promised myself I would never let myself get hurt and crushed like that again. 3 year later, I open up my life and world to a new girl, and at the end of the day, the same thing happens( not the cheating per se, but the crushing of my heart). The difference is that I loved and cared way more this girl then I did for my wife. So here I am, heart-broken and crushed again by another girl I loved. How do I move on from here? How do I trust from here? How do I open up to another girl again? Will I ever find true love again? Do i just settle for something I know isnt true love?
whats wrong with my eating
Last night was a perfect example of how I eat to much, even when I am not hungry. I am always saying I want to eat less, and I want to eat healthier, but I never do.
I went out to dinner last night, and I saw they had chili on the menu. I just wanted to get a bowl of chili. It sounded like the perfect thing. Instead I ended up splitting a bunch of apps( lobster ravoli, crab dip, calamari) and I also get a cup of chili. I didn't want to eat all of that, yet I ordered it all anyway. I have never been able not to eat, and I hate that about myself.
I went out to dinner last night, and I saw they had chili on the menu. I just wanted to get a bowl of chili. It sounded like the perfect thing. Instead I ended up splitting a bunch of apps( lobster ravoli, crab dip, calamari) and I also get a cup of chili. I didn't want to eat all of that, yet I ordered it all anyway. I have never been able not to eat, and I hate that about myself.
Monday, January 18, 2010
Best morning I have had in a while
Today is Monday, and yet it is one of the best Monday's I have ever had. I woke up early this morning, worked out, had a great breakfast, and have been very busy and accomplished a ton I had to at work today( yes, I came in on MLK day). Also, I had a great weekend, and more importantly, I didn't drink at all this weekend, even though I went out and there was a Ravens playoff game. It was great for me to be able to go out and not have a drink at all. It also felt so good to wake up Fri, Sat, Sun, and Mon morning with no hangover and not sleepy at all. I guess that is all going into why today is such a great day.
MLK quotes
A genuine leader is not a searcher for consensus but a molder of consensus.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A lie cannot live.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A man can't ride your back unless it's bent.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A man who won't die for something is not fit to live.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A nation or civilization that continues to produce soft-minded men purchases its own spiritual death on the installment plan.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A nation that continues year after year to spend more money on military defense than on programs of social uplift is approaching spiritual doom.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A right delayed is a right denied.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A riot is at bottom the language of the unheard.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A riot is the language of the unheard.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity and importance and should be undertaken with painstaking excellence.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
All progress is precarious, and the solution of one problem brings us face to face with another problem.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Almost always, the creative dedicated minority has made the world better.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
An individual who breaks a law that conscience tells him is unjust, and who willingly accepts the penalty of imprisonment in order to arouse the conscience of the community over its injustice, is in reality expressing the highest respect for the law.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
At the center of non-violence stands the principle of love.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can't ride you unless your back is bent.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Discrimination is a hellhound that gnaws at Negroes in every waking moment of their lives to remind them that the lie of their inferiority is accepted as truth in the society dominating them.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Everything that we see is a shadow cast by that which we do not see.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Have we not come to such an impasse in the modern world that we must love our enemies - or else? The chain reaction of evil - hate begetting hate, wars producing more wars - must be broken, or else we shall be plunged into the dark abyss of annihilation.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
History will have to record that the greatest tragedy of this period of social transition was not the strident clamor of the bad people, but the appalling silence of the good people.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable... Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Human salvation lies in the hands of the creatively maladjusted.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I am not interested in power for power's sake, but I'm interested in power that is moral, that is right and that is good.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality. This is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made straight and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed and all flesh shall see it together.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I have a dream that one day on the red hills of Georgia, the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners will be able to sit together at the table of brotherhood.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I just want to do God's will. And he's allowed me to go to the mountain. And I've looked over, and I've seen the promised land! I may not get there with you, but I want you to know tonight that we as a people will get to the promised land.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I look to a day when people will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I refuse to accept the view that mankind is so tragically bound to the starless midnight of racism and war that the bright daybreak of peace and brotherhood can never become a reality... I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I submit that an individual who breaks the law that conscience tells him is unjust and willingly accepts the penalty by staying in jail to arouse the conscience of the community over its injustice, is in reality expressing the very highest respect for law.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I submit to you that if a man hasn't discovered something that he will die for, he isn't fit to live.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I want to be the white man's brother, not his brother-in-law.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
If a man hasn't discovered something that he will die for, he isn't fit to live.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
If physical death is the price that I must pay to free my white brothers and sisters from a permanent death of the spirit, then nothing can be more redemptive.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
If we are to go forward, we must go back and rediscover those precious values - that all reality hinges on moral foundations and that all reality has spiritual control.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
It is incontestable and deplorable that Negroes have committed crimes; but they are derivative crimes. They are born of the greater crimes of the white society.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
It is not enough to say we must not wage war. It is necessary to love peace and sacrifice for it.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
It may be true that the law cannot make a man love me, but it can keep him from lynching me, and I think that's pretty important.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Law and order exist for the purpose of establishing justice and when they fail in this purpose they become the dangerously structured dams that block the flow of social progress.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Life's most persistent and urgent question is, 'What are you doing for others?'
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Life's most urgent question is: what are you doing for others?
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into friend.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Means we use must be as pure as the ends we seek.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Never forget that everything Hitler did in Germany was legal.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Never succumb to the temptation of bitterness.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Nonviolence is a powerful and just weapon. which cuts without wounding and ennobles the man who wields it. It is a sword that heals.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Nonviolence means avoiding not only external physical violence but also internal violence of spirit. You not only refuse to shoot a man, but you refuse to hate him.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A lie cannot live.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A man can't ride your back unless it's bent.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A man who won't die for something is not fit to live.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A nation or civilization that continues to produce soft-minded men purchases its own spiritual death on the installment plan.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A nation that continues year after year to spend more money on military defense than on programs of social uplift is approaching spiritual doom.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A right delayed is a right denied.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A riot is at bottom the language of the unheard.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A riot is the language of the unheard.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity and importance and should be undertaken with painstaking excellence.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
All progress is precarious, and the solution of one problem brings us face to face with another problem.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Almost always, the creative dedicated minority has made the world better.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
An individual who breaks a law that conscience tells him is unjust, and who willingly accepts the penalty of imprisonment in order to arouse the conscience of the community over its injustice, is in reality expressing the highest respect for the law.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
At the center of non-violence stands the principle of love.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can't ride you unless your back is bent.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Discrimination is a hellhound that gnaws at Negroes in every waking moment of their lives to remind them that the lie of their inferiority is accepted as truth in the society dominating them.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Everything that we see is a shadow cast by that which we do not see.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Have we not come to such an impasse in the modern world that we must love our enemies - or else? The chain reaction of evil - hate begetting hate, wars producing more wars - must be broken, or else we shall be plunged into the dark abyss of annihilation.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
History will have to record that the greatest tragedy of this period of social transition was not the strident clamor of the bad people, but the appalling silence of the good people.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable... Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Human salvation lies in the hands of the creatively maladjusted.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I am not interested in power for power's sake, but I'm interested in power that is moral, that is right and that is good.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality. This is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made straight and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed and all flesh shall see it together.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I have a dream that one day on the red hills of Georgia, the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners will be able to sit together at the table of brotherhood.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I just want to do God's will. And he's allowed me to go to the mountain. And I've looked over, and I've seen the promised land! I may not get there with you, but I want you to know tonight that we as a people will get to the promised land.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I look to a day when people will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I refuse to accept the view that mankind is so tragically bound to the starless midnight of racism and war that the bright daybreak of peace and brotherhood can never become a reality... I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I submit that an individual who breaks the law that conscience tells him is unjust and willingly accepts the penalty by staying in jail to arouse the conscience of the community over its injustice, is in reality expressing the very highest respect for law.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I submit to you that if a man hasn't discovered something that he will die for, he isn't fit to live.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
I want to be the white man's brother, not his brother-in-law.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
If a man hasn't discovered something that he will die for, he isn't fit to live.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
If physical death is the price that I must pay to free my white brothers and sisters from a permanent death of the spirit, then nothing can be more redemptive.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
If we are to go forward, we must go back and rediscover those precious values - that all reality hinges on moral foundations and that all reality has spiritual control.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
It is incontestable and deplorable that Negroes have committed crimes; but they are derivative crimes. They are born of the greater crimes of the white society.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
It is not enough to say we must not wage war. It is necessary to love peace and sacrifice for it.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
It may be true that the law cannot make a man love me, but it can keep him from lynching me, and I think that's pretty important.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Law and order exist for the purpose of establishing justice and when they fail in this purpose they become the dangerously structured dams that block the flow of social progress.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Life's most persistent and urgent question is, 'What are you doing for others?'
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Life's most urgent question is: what are you doing for others?
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into friend.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Means we use must be as pure as the ends we seek.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Never forget that everything Hitler did in Germany was legal.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Never succumb to the temptation of bitterness.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Nonviolence is a powerful and just weapon. which cuts without wounding and ennobles the man who wields it. It is a sword that heals.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Nonviolence means avoiding not only external physical violence but also internal violence of spirit. You not only refuse to shoot a man, but you refuse to hate him.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
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